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Tamika
Expert October 2019

Help!!!!!!!!!!! When you have that one person doesn't want to see you happy and married

Tamika, on July 16, 2019 at 9:48 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 1 6

I am having a problem with my fiancés sister. We used to be real close and hang out all the time and all of the sudden we are no longer friends. The first problem was he was previously married and they had a child together and she was real close with his ex wife, so they still talk. Second, her old best friend is now my best friend and she was upset that she was not in the wedding and I was. They are no longer best friends because his sister is wild, drinks heavy and our once mutual friends has changed and for the better and she does not be on all the drama and mess. Thirdly, her brother has changed so much for the better since we been together and he is not the person he used to be when he was with his ex-wife. So far, she has sabotage a lot of people that may not come to our wedding because she is all in their ear and using that this is his "Second Marriage" as a reason for not attending and also because this is a destination wedding and does not understand why it is not local? She is conniving and a habitual liar and I am heartbroken and upset. I feel like sometimes she is a devil and put a Hoax on our relationship because ever since we have planned to get married everything has been in our way: From my health, car, workplace, home life and friendships. We do have a Premarital counseling set up soon so I do want to bring many of these concerns up.


HELP!!!!!!

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Latest activity by Tamika, on July 17, 2019 at 3:17 PM
  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
    Brianna N ·
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    Well, as far as his sister goes, I totally understand your feelings and would be super upset and frustrated as well if I were in your shoes. However, try to remember that this is you and your fiances wedding - not hers! Don't let her ruin the fun of your big day. It absolutely sucks when other people aren't as supportive as we would like them to be - but when it comes down to it, the day is about you and your soon to be spouse, not those who would throw negativity your way. Those who love and support you guys will be there, regardless of what his sister is saying. My best advice would be to ignore her and her negativity as best as you can. I also would have a long talk with your fiance about your feelings on this, maybe he can step in and diffuse some of the tension. After all, she is his family. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this, but try your best to set this aside! It is not worth the stress or the drama!

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    If she’s being negative, ignore her. If she’s in your relationship in an unhealthy way, your FH and you should set boundaries and stick to them. As far as convincing people not to go because it’s his second marriage and a destination wedding, I think this really depends on the already existing family dynamic. I’m getting married for the second time and a lot of my family is attending but I know they wouldn’t/couldn’t if we had chosen a destination wedding.
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  • Tamika
    Expert October 2019
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    Brianna thank you! Yes, I was in tears yesterday after hearing so many thoughts about his brothers being in the wedding and that my fiancé already been married before and you only suppose to have one wedding. We got into a big argument over this because I was so heartbroken.

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  • Tamika
    Expert October 2019
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    I understand Sarah and thank you, yeah we decided that we was going to have the wedding in Gatlinburg which is 4 hours away and we sent out the Save The Dates one year ago with the hotel information and then I mailed the Formal invitations last month giving ppl 4 months who would like to go which is the ones that RSVPd.

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  • Shana
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    I'm always a blunt person. It keeps things simpler and there's no drama despite what many people think. Personally, I would confront her about it. Your fiance needs to talk to her. She shouldn't act like she's still in high school. It sucks when people act like this, but do not let it ruin your day. Not everyone will like you or have your back. Stick with each other and you'll be just fine.

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  • Tamika
    Expert October 2019
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    I have confronted her in past on other issues and YES she acts like she is in High School. I am trying not to let it ruin my day.

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