Sarah
Just Said Yes June 2020

Help!!! What to do....

Sarah, on November 19, 2019 at 9:36 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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So I have two great friends ! But my maid of honor and the best man dated and are no longer together. From the beginning I wanted Co maid of honors. I have been put in the situation to either make them walk together. Or have a quick switch between who escorts. Both of these girls are so special and I don't want anyone to be uncomfortable.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·
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    I don't think I understand. Why can't the other MOH just walk with the BM? If for whatever reason that isn't an option, your friend will be fine for a 20 second walk down the aisle.

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  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Sarah ·
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    Well lets just say the BM has asked to not walk with her (petty i know). The whole situation makes me mad. Out of anger I want to stick her with him just because he asked. Because all in all it is MY day. Like it puts me in a bad spot with my MOHs. Because my friend who dated the BM thinks im doing the Co MOH because of her. This is not the case!

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  • Jennifer
    VIP September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    If they parted on such awful terms having him around at all is going to be difficult, but they are( hopefully!) both adults and can avoid each other.
    If they didn’t part on bad terms they can walk down together- it isn’t a long walk and the limited other interaction won’t be terrible.

    You CAN do Co-MOH, it IS your wedding after all. Maybe assign some of the MOH tasks to each so they feel equally included.
    Best of luck.
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  • Sarah
    Just Said Yes June 2020
    Sarah ·
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    The BM is not much of an adult. lol Thank you for the advice !!

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  • Alejandra
    Expert November 2020
    Alejandra ·
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    What exactly is the question? I would talk to the BM and MOH separately and make sure they are okay with being that close to each other, even if they don’t like it. If they can do it, I don’t think I see the problem.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I think your friends, for the most part, can set aside their differences for one day for your wedding. Unless one has done something awful to the other, they are adults who can be cordial to one another.

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Ah I ran into a similar issue. My groomsman didn't want to walk with my bridesman. So I improvised and eventually found who they'd rather walk with. It was annoying but ultimately not a super huge deal
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  • J
    Super April 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I think they should be able to act like adults for one day. If they can't, you definitely don't have to do pairs, have one side walk individually, then the other!

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