Hey everyone,
I have an extremely odd situation where I'm not quite sure what to do without feeling like I'm disrespecting someone. I have two issues, what name do i put on my invitations, and who to walk me down the aisle??
So - backstory. I just found out almost 2 years ago that the man that raised me is not my biological father. I have not had a relationship with the man who raised me in almost 10 years. His last name is Ortiz. (And this was my maiden name).
I found my biological father shortly after I found out, and we have an amazing relationship. He's stepped up as a dad, and has done more for me in the time I've known him then what the man that raised me did. His last name, and what should have been my maiden name is Montalvo.
My mom's last name is Ortiz-Ellis (hyphenated with my step-father's name).
And my last name is Reilly, which is my ex husbands surname.
What in the world do I do? I don't think sending invitations as a "Reilly" is respectful to my FH, but I don't think that "Ortiz" is right either, and would upset my bio-dad. I considered "Montalvo" but no one knows me by that name. I know I'm probably freaking out about this more than I should, but I don't know how to make this seem... right.
This also runs into the who will walk me down the aisle? Prior to knowing about my biological dad, it was always supposed to be my grandpa and step-father. Now, I would love to have my biological father walk me. But my mother thinks this is disrespectful to the men in my life who expected this role. How can I incorporate all three of them into this role?
Good lord that was long. I'm sorry!