Help!! Wedding color/guests attire

I would advise against this. Hosts do not get to dictate what guests wear. Furthermore, it may have the unfortunate effect of making guests feel they are being used as props.
Finally, you are very right that guests will likely need to purchase clothing, which may not go over very well.

Khaki pants would look nice I think. Also I LOVE this idea. I would put your bridesmaids in white just to match things, and they could carry white or red flowers. I don't think it will look like a candy cane! SUPER cool imo

I think it’s rude to dictate the way your guests dress. I also think you’re setting yourself up for failure because it’s highly unlikely that all of your guests are going to follow that dress code. And then what? Does uncle Joe have to leave because he wore a green shirt? Just seems like a bit much.


To answer your question, if you go through with this, I would have the wedding party wear grey.

When it comes to color schemes for the guests, it becomes more of a suggestion than mandatory. FH and I also have some fun color schemes that change from the ceremony to the reception. So we’re asking our guests to wear black or black with white (but black is more common in people’s wardrobe, so it won’t be difficult)

In your case, I think if your guests are fun like ours, then they’ll go with the flow. I’ve been to all white parties and the men wear white pants. If not, then they’ll probably wear khaki, like you mentioned. Also since you’re looking to stand out and make a statement, then I would have the bridal party wear white as well.

If you have a small guest list of mostly close friends & family, they might get on board. But it may be easier if you asked guests to wear all black because most people likely already have black clothing. If guests wore black, your groom, groomsmen and bridesmaids could all wear gray (the groom could wear a red shirt or tie to match your dress). That would be very classy and formal.


If you do ask guests to wear white, just don’t freak out if they wear ivory, tan or khaki because white might be hard to find. But the white/neutral colors might get the look you’re going for.

View Quoted Comment Okay so what do you think about me making all white as a suggestion and then adding if it’s not accommodating for them then any neutral color is fine?

View Quoted Comment Yea I was thinking about that but we have a bunch of family and friends so maybe I can make it a suggestion instead of mandatory

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!❤️

View Quoted Comment Yea I was thinking that and I wouldn’t want anyone whose not able to afford buying new clothes to feel any less so maybe make it a suggestion and not mandatory? Because the venue and decor will be all white with a hint of champagne

View Quoted Comment I think a suggestion is still difficult because there is a sense of obligation as no one wants to upset the bride. This is especially if there is this concept that those who don't cannot afford to.
I would just not do it.

What if you had the wedding party all in white? That's who will be in the pictures anyway. You could still have that dramatic effect in photos without needing your guests to wear a certain colour.

View Quoted Comment Ohhhhh okay I see what you mean now!!!! Thanks that helps so much! I wouldn’t want anyone to feel out of place or uncomfortable at all no matter if it’s my day or not I definitely want everyone to be just as happy and content as I am! Thanks again!❤️