Natalie
Just Said Yes September 2016

Help!!! Urgent!!

Natalie, on October 8, 2021 at 8:36 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 8
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Y鈥檃ll I feel absolutely horrible terrible terrible terrible not just because I am sick as hell with hand foot mouth my whole family came down with this yesterday I thought I could ge tour unscathed !! But I woke up covered up with it this morning constant diahrea and stomach cramps and not to mention the blisters getting worse by the hour my daughter is my best friends flower girl tomorrow!!! And I am the matron of honor 馃槶馃槶馃槶 I have been working on my speech for over a month it is literally perfect and I鈥檓 the only speech to be given!! I am freaking out !! I鈥檓 supposed to drive in 3 hours tomorrow at 7 am to get there and I am contagious as all get out my parents tell me how roood and inconsiderate it is to spread this to her family especially the ones who are elderly and especially during Covid which isn鈥檛 the best in our state - I can鈥檛 imagine getting this sick and then getting Covid on top of it - I am battling fevers my 3 year old is pretty miserable too. With fever and I have a 6 month old baby who hasn鈥檛 showed signs I鈥檓 yet but I鈥檓 sure it will hit her tomorrow 馃槶 as I have it hit me today! I don鈥檛 know what to do or say a part of me wants to pray for a miracle and hope this clears by tomorrow and all is well then the other part is realistic and fearing my baby may get really sick tomorrow and need momma she is exclusively breastfed and not to mention how much worse I may be ... what鈥檚 worrying me the most atm is my eyelid is itching No blister but that and my chin feel like breakout is imminent but I鈥檓 worried my eye may swell shut what should I say - I feel like today is the day if I鈥檓 gonna call out I鈥檇 rather not ruin her day day of with a curveball like this hell 馃槶馃槶馃槶Help!!! Urgent!! 1

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Latest activity by Natalie, on October 8, 2021 at 8:34 PM
  • Cece
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    Reach out to your friend ASAP. Tell her the situation, and let her make the call.
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  • Cece
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    Reach out to your friend ASAP. Tell her the situation, and let her make the call. Under the circumstances, I can鈥檛 imagine she would want you to attend being that contagious- for the sake of the guests and for the sake of a couple (Who wants to go on their honeymoon with hand foot mouth disease??) it鈥檚 unfortunate timing, but these things happen. I鈥檓 sure she will be understanding.
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  • Givemeallthepups
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    I would call her ASAP and tell her you鈥檙e so sorry but you鈥檙e unable to attend. If you and your children are all contagious, it鈥檚 irresponsible and disrespectful to attend an event.
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  • Ashlee
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    I agree with PP, reach out to her ASAP. Maybe you can video record your speech and they can play it. But it's absolutely not okay for you to attend if you and your children are contagious, not only are we in a pandemic, but that's extremely contagious and can be severe for infants and elderly. Please be responsible.

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  • Natalie
    Just Said Yes September 2016
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    Thank you for this review assurance I am making the right decision I just got off the phone with her and she did not take it well - she started crying and getting very upset and I started crying and then she wanted to get off the phone immediately I am Soo upset by this I can鈥檛 even tell you how long I have worked and prepared for this speech and the things I wanted to tell her I鈥檓 just so upset it has to be this way but I know I am making the best decision as I can鈥檛 imagine having this with covid or any other illness .. it makes me so sad if feel really bad if I was responsible for someone getting really really ill
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  • E
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    On your speech: is it possible for you to give it virtually in any way? Do you feel well enough to do that if it's an option?

    Give her time to calm down and then consider reaching back out to see if there is a way for you to be present, at least for your speech. If not, perhaps once you are feeling better, you could offer to still give her your speech, just the two (or three) of you.

    You are making the best decision by not going. HFMD is highly contagious, and your GI symptoms are, too. The bride may be upset, but it would be far worse if everyone's memory of her wedding a few years down the road is "remember how the MOH came to the wedding sick as a dog and got a bunch of guests sick??"

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  • Molly
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    I work in child care. HFM is a toxic bane to my existence. You're contagious and most people won't know they caught it from you till they've already been contagious. Most likely the bride is just feeling overwhelmed and once she has taken a breath and realize that it is for the best that you be there. I wonder if her reaction might have been different if you said Covid? I've known many people to have no clue what HFM is unless they work in child care/are parents who have gotten it. You made the right choice. Don't beat yourself up. I agree with a PP to see if you can live stream your speech.

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  • Natalie
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    I feel so terrible I haven鈥檛 talked to her in trying to give her space and don鈥檛 want to be a dark cloud but she was so upset earlier she just got off the phone and said she鈥檇 call back but didn鈥檛 which is fine I know she is devastated ... the think is her child had it years ago apparently a mild case and she never got it so she was kind of downplaying it and I honestly was too until it hit me full blown this morning and it鈥檚 even gotten worse into the night I have painful itchy bumps now showing up on my face and stomach behind my ears inside my ears it鈥檚 been hell back and forth to the bathroom for some reason it hit me harder than my daughter I鈥檝e never had it ... and it鈥檚 been pretty brutal...I was going to record the speech for her in my voice perhaps a video recording idk about stealing the shoe from afar she may be too upset right now to receive it. But a recording she can listen To later when she has calmed down and realized it鈥檚 for the best! I鈥檇 hate for everyone to remember her wedding as remember how damn sick we got with HfM that was HELL ! I don鈥檛 want to chance ruining her honeymoon either.
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