Help! September 2020 bride, venue troubles

This is a very difficult decision. I think you have to talk this through with your FH and decide what's best for everyone, but most importantly you and your FH. How is the venue handling current weddings? August is just a week away so I don't think it's going to hurt that extra week at this point.

Personally I'd accept the option of outdoors, but that's me. I prefer fresh air and our wedding is outdoors with an outdoors reception in FL just a few weeks after yours.

No matter what you do, you won't please everyone, so be prepared for that. But follow your guts.

Sit down with your fiance and look into your options. Ask the venue how they are handling current weddings. If you do go with outdoors, what happens if the weather turns sour? What other venue options do you have in the area? What is your financial setback if you end up downsizing? Can you stream the ceremony on Facebook or unlisted on YouTube for guests staying home?
How big is your wedding and the wedding party? How many guests do you think will actually show up? Are you going to require and enforce masks, face shields, and Distancing procedures?

I'm sorry you're going through this. I agree with you on postponing. Even outside can be a risk and if you have immunocompromised guests, that's a consideration. I think the venue should totally let you postpone without penalty.

I’m going through the same thing. My wedding is currently set for September 23rd (original date May 14th) and I have no idea if it’s going to happen or not. My venue just keeps telling me they’ll let me know, but like you, I have not sent out any invites and I feel extremely stressed. I would rather just push it back a year from now then just keep postponing every 2 months.
Hopefully you hear from your venue soon and you can make the best decision for you.

I would talk about the outside option with your guests. I would feel safer as a guest.
Also, my grandparents asked that I *not* delay my wedding for them because they were worried they wouldn't live to see my postponed date. My other immunocompromised VIP has also expressed that she wants to attend, understands the risks, and will take care of herself as far as distancing goes. She also asked me not to delay the event on her account. My wedding is a small, family only event, but as of now it will be inside

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Is your venue just refusing to give you a new date until early August, or will they not even discuss what your postponement options are at this point?
We postponed our big reception to next year, but are still getting married and having a smaller one with only our immediate families this August, which is the same thing I'd do in your situation, assuming the venue agrees to cooperate. If it turns out that the venue will not let you postpone without losing all of your money, it might be a good idea to consider having a smaller wedding (outdoors with masks), and inviting your guests who are vulnerable, or would be traveling from one of the 31 quarantine states, digitally.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, our venue won’t even discuss options until August, but they even said we would be able to postpone in July, then I called them and they said in August. I’m just afraid it’s gonna be a two week pattern until my wedding. And plus I have nothing done because I don’t want to put deposits down on the remaining small things I need if we postpone. And I had to cancel my dress alterations being unsure of what will happen.

View Quoted Comment Do you have a written record of them saying you could dely in July? That may help here

View Quoted Comment No, unfortunately it has been all phone calls

View Quoted Comment That sounds SO frustrating! I really hope they keep their word this time so you'll be able to have a resolution soon.

View Quoted Comment Do you ever communicate with them by email? If so, you could try to force them to put something in writing.