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Just Said Yes March 2015

HELP! Postponed, Sort of?

FutureAFWife, on March 17, 2015 at 4:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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I hate that my first post on a wedding forum is one like this, but I've tried google/some etiquette books and nothing really fits my situation.

My FH & I had planned to elope Saturday while on vacation with our parents. Unfortunately my sister got very sick the day my parents were to fly down & by the time she was released there were no flights available. I couldn't go through with it w/o my parents, so my FH & I decided to hold off.

My coworkers knew our intentions, so they threw a small surprise shower before we left and I've already sent them thank you notes.

What to do with the gifts they got me? The internet/etiquette books say I only need to return them if we cancelled the wedding (which we didn't) or if we aren't sure we will reschedule due to relationship issues, etc (which isn't the case either) But its clear they're discussing weddings, not elopements so idk if that makes a difference.

TL;DR: Do you return gifts if you're only postponing?

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Latest activity by annakay511, on March 17, 2015 at 6:36 PM

Master September 2014
OG Mrs.K (2.0) · on March 17, 2015 at 4:39 PM
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Master October 2015
OG Kristen · on March 17, 2015 at 4:41 PM
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If you're eventually going to get married can't you keep them? It's not like they're going to throw you another elopment shower.
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Master February 2016
AlexisM082 · on March 17, 2015 at 4:42 PM
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If it was only 5 coworkers who gave you gifts, then why not try to return them to them and see what they say. No keep it, you're still getting married. Or thanks. I'll just take that back to the store.
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Master August 2014
A&G · on March 17, 2015 at 4:42 PM
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Just hold onto the gifts for now. Don't use them. It sounds like you are still getting married, just later than planned. Wait until you are married before you use any gifts just in case.
To my knowledge that is proper ettiquite. Same as if someone sends you a gift early, before you are married.
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Master October 2015
FutureMrsCrane · on March 17, 2015 at 4:42 PM
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I would personally keep them, unless you don't plan to marry FH within the next few months anymore.
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Master February 2015
Bethyonce · on March 17, 2015 at 4:45 PM
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I'd do what Alexis said.
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Just Said Yes March 2015
FutureAFWife · on March 17, 2015 at 4:51 PM
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I reworded if that helps...its a hard story to tell in 1000 characters.

And I haven't used a single gift (elopement or not, I totally followed the don't use til after rule)
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Master August 2015
Julia T · on March 17, 2015 at 4:58 PM
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If you are still getting married I say keep them
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Master July 2015
annakay511 · on March 17, 2015 at 6:36 PM
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I don't think it impacts your situation at all! I think when they ask about it, explain the situation with your sister and that you plan to reschedule! Otherwise, no need to mention it.
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