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Help please with bridal party disaster

Theresa, on March 13, 2021 at 10:24 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 9

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It’s taken forever to get a 4th bridesmaid, so I have 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen
I had to replace twice a bridesmaid for his long time best friend he calls his brother. Well they had baby together in April broke up in November. Then he found a girl that I really liked her. Within a month they were engaged so I had to ask her if she couldn’t be in the wedding which really messes up his daughter being a flower girl I apologize about the long post just need help I asked my step sister in law because I just love her I also asked my step niece who is 10 to be a junior bridesmaid their son who is 6 but idk if they have jr groomsmen because we were supposed to have his best friend daughter Izzy born a week after his sisters son so now what should I do?

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Sarah · on March 13, 2021 at 11:18 AM
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1. Sides don’t have to be even so I wouldn’t add/remove or replace based on that.
2. Don’t add people to your wedding party unless YOU are close to them. Their relationship to other people in your wedding isn’t relevant to whether they should be in the wedding.
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Expert April 2022
Fred · on March 13, 2021 at 11:23 AM
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You don't have to have anyone you don't want to stand by your side, not even your own sister(s) if you have at least one.
The people you ask should be those you're closest to , as long as they support your relationship, your upcoming wedding and marriage.
Listen to your wants on this one if you and your partner are paying for 100%. However, who is paying ? Because when parents are contributing or footing the bill, they usually pressure the couple to include some people you don't want.
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Champion December 2022
Michelle · on March 13, 2021 at 11:37 AM
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Don't add new people. They know they are replacements.
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Veronica · on March 13, 2021 at 11:47 AM
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You should only be including those you actually want in your wedding. Not just because they are dating someone else in the bridal party. Replacing people is also never a good idea. You don't need to have the same number as your fiance.
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Katie · on March 13, 2021 at 5:09 PM
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1000% exactly this. I see so many brides and grooms do this and I think it's absolutely silly. My cousin had her bff as MOH and then the rest of her bridesmaids were girlfriends/wife of the groomsmen and the grooms best man was the husband of her MOH. Idk I just think it is really silly sorry just my personal opinion. The people standing next to you should be the people whom you are close with and couldn't imagine not having them by your side.
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Savvy October 2022
Theresa · on March 15, 2021 at 1:23 PM
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Even though I had to change out someone I love who is like a sister to me but she just now deep into drugs. I offered her help she isn’t ready yet and no one can get a hold of her. So I asked my sister in law if she would be in the wedding and we also asked my niece who is 10 to be a jr bridesmaid my nephew I think he’s 6 I ask to be in as a junior groomsmen, we also have his nephew who is 9 months old now. There is one baby that is like 4 months a beautiful little girl river. I just love her
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Maggie · on March 15, 2021 at 4:23 PM
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That does sound like a disaster! Kicking people out, asking people who you aren't even close with, kicking more people out.
I'm honestly not sure what you need help with at this point when it feels like all of your problems could be solved if you just understood that there is no reason to have a set number or matching sides or anything like that. You each (you and your future spouse) ask the people you are closest to, and that's all you need to worry about.
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Elmarose · on March 16, 2021 at 4:00 AM
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I totally agree with this. Best wishes Theresa 😭Let us know if we can help you with anything else.
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Savvy October 2022
Theresa · on April 4, 2021 at 11:58 PM
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Exactly, that’s why I finally after I exploded on my Fh because one of those We have asked not to be in the wedding is his brother because he is just getting worse into drugs we have offered him help also but he isn’t ready. I’m so embarrassed and I feel like I’m being judged by everyone on here...
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