Help! Not sure how to invite someone late!

I wouldn't do this. Some will say "I'd just be happy to go, I don't care when I'm invited" but there are also people who will be offended to be a second choice last minute.

Do you have a minimum to hit? Can you add an extra app or upgrade your bar to reach said minimum?

If you're unsure if she will be offended, I wouldn't invite her. I didn't invite any of my coworkers. I had a coworker who I had become friendly with less than 8 months before my wedding. I knew she wouldn't be offended being asked later on. We talked about it.

Yeah, I wouldn’t invite her.

If you think that she would be excited to be invited regardless if it's a few weeks late, I would just pull her aside and have a one on one conversation about it. I would be completely honest. Just say, originally I had to make some hard cuts based on reception size, budget etc but a lot of my family is unable to go. I really value your friendship and would really like to extend you an invitation if you're available. Give her a physical invitation (if you have any left) or just leave it like that. If she's hurt/upset, you can have a genuine conversation about that too. You can tell her that you didn't mean for her to be an afterthought, that it really wasn't your intention, just that this is how things worked out.

Thank you ladies for your input!
I think you all are right— it’s best to not invite her, she will definitely feel like an afterthought. At least her not being invited hasn’t affected our working relationship, nor our friendliness outside of work. I don’t think she would be able to make it anyway, because she’s scheduled to work, and there’s no coverage.
Unfortunately we have a catering minimum to meet, and we’re paying for that amount regardless. We’re only a few short, so we will just count our vendor meals as guest meals to cut costs. 🤷‍♀️

I had some people I invited late but the way I said it was I didn't have any room at all initially but wanted you there, would love for you to come if you can.
Like.. invited late or not at all, which is worse ya know? Aha
But I like what you did with counting vendor meals because I did that too. Saved me money for the costs

View Quoted Comment It’s a know your crowd type of thing. Some think being invited late also makes it seem
like guest can’t come but you added more just for the head count. My fiancé and I would not care to be invited late. But we see both sides.

Honesty is key ! We can’t invite everyone to our weddings. Invite her if you want her there. If she asks simply tell her the truth