Help! Need Relationship Advice!

I’m so sorry for your loss of your mom. I am praying for you and hope everything turns out okay with your fiancé

View Quoted Comment My condolences to you and your family! I lost my Mom this passed June, both my Dad and Mom passed on the exact day..nine years later

View Quoted Comment I'm so sorry for your loss. 😔

My heart goes out to you both! Just know...she's always with you!

I’m so sorry for your loss. Did he state why he needed a break from the relationship? To be honest it would makes think maybe he’s getting cold feet. If you guys live together how are you taking a break is he moving out? I would also question if getting married right now is really a good idea seeing as though he’s not sure about your relationship.

It's because I wanted another baby. He doesn't want any kids. And I'm OK with just the two I have if it means not loosing him. I honestly don't think I can handle another heart break.

I know breaks work for some people and don't for others, but what my Fiance and I try to do is to work out our problems right away, or if one of us is heated, waiting for them to calm down and then work it through. It's a common saying, but communication is really key to relationships and working it out together (or learning how to work things out together) is how to keep a good marriage. It's hard, and it requires both of you to talk things through together and be vulnerable and honest, but I'm sure you guys will be able to work it out!

Hoping for all the best!

View Quoted Comment I’m not trying to tell you what to do but I would say that you probably should think how you really feel in the situation. Are you sacrificing having another kid out of fear of losing him or are you genuinely ok with it?

View Quoted Comment Take time to reassess your goals and if he's gently backing out. Most of all listen to your heart. Be careful with your feelings.

I would look into professional counseling.

You should talk to your fiancé immediately. Do not wait until he moves out to talk to him.

I am so sorry about you loosing your mom and the timing of everything! To be completely honest , if the wedding is 6 months away maybe you all should push things back again. Or get in the practice of not taking breaks especially since you all live together, if you all are taking breaks now , what happens when you are married and he wants to leave the house for 2 weeks because of another issue ? Encourage working the problem out with him because you all are in a lifetime commitment and don’t get any “ breaks” when your married, it’s life long! Hope it helps!

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother and that you are now going through this. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you.

I really hate to say this but a few things jumped out at me based on your response. You said he doesn't want any kids - but you already have two? How does he feel about your children, and are you on the same page about the role he's going to play in their lives? That's a really important part of your relationship. Another thing - I dont think it's a good idea to not have another child just to stay with him. It's not fair to you, and you could end up resenting him down the line for denying you something you really want.

With all that being said, why is he looking for a break? It might not be the worst idea in the world if I'm being honest. Maybe he needs some time apart to figure out what he wants out of life and his feelings toward kids. I think if you want to try and make this work you need to have a deeper conversation about what's going on, how he feels, and how he sees the future with the two of you. I think Kenisha's suggestion of counseling is excellent (good advice as always) - couples counseling if you can get him to go, but counseling on your own at the very least to deal with this. I wish you the best of luck ❤

Thanks everyone we talked. We're going to to work on it.

View Quoted Comment He's amazing with my two boys. He just doesn't want any of his own
He's content with whay we have.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha, okay. I wasn't sure from your post. I'm glad to hear you talked with him and are working things out. I wish you the very best and hope things get easier for you.

I would postpone your wedding if possible, and get into couples therapy.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Personally, I don't believe in taking breaks. You either want to be together, or you don't. Plain and simple. Would either of you be willing to go to couple's therapy to get to the bottom of what is really going on?

Sorry to hear about your mom, loosing someone close to you is always hard especially during life changing moments in your life, like getting married.



What’s important to you? Yes, the idea of loosing another person can be tough, however marriage will be tough. There will be lots of disagreements and ups and downs. What’s the compromise? If not having a child is the compromise, great. I just don’t want you to reflect and say I was so afraid of loosing this person, I didn’t do what I really wanted and you blame him or yourself