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Help! My sister/MOF is being a bridezilla

Jessica, on August 5, 2015 at 8:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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I'm getting married next year and I love planning ahead of time for everything. So picking my colors, dresses and theme, me need to be done. Or at least have a few ideas. My sister, who is my MOH never was so difficult. She's always been picky but she's taking it to a whole new level. Even threatening not to be in the wedding at all. If its not the color, then its the style of dress. We are all plus size girls, me more so then her, so I understand some dresses look better then others and have taken that into consideration. I've heard things like, it looks like the ocean threw up (my fav color is blue, all shades) or it looks like a toga, might as well make us wear a sheet. When I offered to let them all pick out there own style of dress but in the color I want. All I got was that looks dumb, like people picked something out of the closet and wore it. She's even told me I can't get married to so and so date because she needs time. I love her, but she's driving me crazy.

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Latest activity by SoontobeMrs.A-V, on August 6, 2015 at 9:18 AM

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OriginalKD · on August 5, 2015 at 8:07 PM
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Well, at least she wants to be involved - a nice departure from our usual MOH problem posts
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Jessica · on August 5, 2015 at 8:13 PM
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For now at least.. She recently has developed a very selfish demeanor. Many more problems then just the wedding planning I won't discuss here. But I had hoped by making her my MOH would bring her back in the family circle.
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OriginalKD · on August 5, 2015 at 8:53 PM
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I think your good intentions created an atmosphere to allow her to cause stress for you. It is great that you are trying so hard to be thoughtful, but you need to look out for you too
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SoontobeMrs.A-V · on August 6, 2015 at 9:18 AM
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That sucks! I've learned quickly that weddings make people crazy and you learn so much about friends/family when wedding planning. I'm in a similar situation with my sister/MOH because she is saying she will not come to my DW since I didn't choose the location she wanted. The best advice I got from a friend (who is a therapist) is to respond with, " thank you for your suggestion, I really appreciate it, I love that you want to help me plan my big day, and I will take it into consideration" after they it's up to you (and the FH) to decide if you'll stick to what you want or accommodate her. I'm talking to my planner about another DW location to see if I find something I like and my sister will like as well, but if I don't find anything, or my FH isn't pleased, then we will stick to the original plan. What I've realized too is a wedding is about marriage, which obviously leads to future decisions ( children, buying a home, etc) where you and Your husband will make decisions together, not necessarily with your family, and that's tough for family to understand and respect. Good luck!
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