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Oh NO! I'm so sorry you feel this way. Stop, take a deep breath. How much space do you have? Get a piece of paper and draw out what you're envisioning. I promise you, YOU.CAN.DO.THIS and will be beautiful. I personally prefer simplicity. Don't do more than you have to and that old saying, "Less is more" is so true. You have a whole team of brides / wives that have been in your shoes and we are all more than willing to help and offer advice.

You've got this. Keep your head up. The whole point is you are marrying the love of your life. Once the world crazyness calms down, pick a year and your situation is better, take your time and plan a vow renewal with all the fixings.

View Quoted Comment I have land but I’m from Tennessee and we have a lot of hills and it’s kind of hilly land and the only real flat area doesn’t seem big enough. I know stressing like I am is one of the biggest mistakes I can make but I just feel like I don’t have anyone that even wants to hear my feelings other than my fiancé and he can only do so much. I haven’t even went to sleep yet I just sit in my room in the dark with my eyes closed but I can’t sleep because I’m constantly thinking of what’s going to go wrong cause I don’t know what to do

View Quoted Comment Thankyou, I definitely feel if I could do this over I just would have went to a chapel where my honey moon was so I could just spend more money on me and my fiancé and our honey moon and really focus on us rather than if everyone else is going to be satisfied or happy. My sister went to a wedding not to long ago and this girl has a wedding planner and she comes from a wealthy family. And all my sister could do is just talk about how unorganized it was and how all over the place it was and that she wasn’t impressed and how she had a wedding planner but it was still bad. At the point of me hearing her say that to me my eye was probably twitching. No one but a bride will understand the pressure, anxiety, and depression that comes with a wedding think of the ones that can’t afford planners and she just told me hers was bad with one. She’s not married and she is spoiled where I’m the middle child so it’s different. But I wish I could worry about me and my fiancé and us being together for ever rather than others who will be disappointed about my wedding. It’s just my anxiety I guess

I'm so sorry you're so stressed. As PP mentioned, just breathe. It's really common to feel stressed. It's also really common for things to go wrong. At the end of the day, the important thing is that you're marrying your fiance. Try to focus on that and the love you 2 have for each other. As long as that love is as the center of the wedding, it'll be fine. Make a list of the things you need to do, prioritize it in terms of most time sensitive/important at the top. Focus on 1 thing at a time and move to the next. Also, remember, there is beauty in simplicity. You don't have to go all out on decor.

View Quoted Comment Oh and that’s not the end of it my maid of honor and her sister whom is a brides maid still has not got their dress or made appointments and I’ve told them multiple times to do it ! I shouldn’t have to do that!? My wedding is in October!

View Quoted Comment Decor I have down I’m a thrift shopper and a border anyway I have tons of candles and it’s in the fall so we are using hay bells and mums and pumpkins it’s more of the space, and table, and chairs, and places to use the bathroom that I’m worried about. I’ll have to rent port a potties or something we are in the middle of no where no house just land

You can do this girl! I have no wedding planner, and I’m sure there’s lots of beautiful weddings that happen, without one! I know how hard it is when no one helps really! Good luck and enjoy the planning, breathe, no one will notice if there is something missing or out of place!

View Quoted Comment That’s my family they will though. They literally look for things that are wrong. And I’m just so stressed over it and I’m tired of no one being there to help me

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Wellllllll that sucks. See I simply would not do it or invite people if that’s how they are, but I get it, family lol I would pull everyone aside and say look, if no one is offering any help, which is fine, I don’t want to hear a single negative comment about my ceremony/reception. I would remind them how hard I’m working and positive comments only. I am a super direct person though. I hate people that bring others down. Also congratulations for doing this all alone. That’s just sounds intimidating and you should be proud!

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First of all - There is not a bride or any planner out there that can say everything has gone 100% perfectly to plan (well, if there is, I have yet to meet them). Something will always be "off."

Hills sound beautiful, how long do you plan to have your ceremony, why not do a standing ceremony if you have a small guest count and shorter ceremony - that will solve the issue of the "hills. You can plan it like a "amphitheater" setting.

Focus on the flat area to be your reception area. And nothing says you can't combine the two areas. Look at this pic I just found... it looks like a small setting for an intimate wedding and limited space.

Some friends and family don't want to hear our woe's and yes, our FH is our "ears" sometimes especially in these times and that's how it should be. But he should also be helping you with the planning.

Get some rest too... This is not the end all. You'll be no good to anyone if you are stressing and making yourself sick. Keep it small, keep it intimate and you can have everything you want on a very friendly budget.

View Quoted Comment I’m the same way I’m the first to call someone out about something and it shouldn’t bother me but it’s different when it’s your sisters, your mama, your maid of honor. When it’s the people who are supposed to be there the most rn and be thrilled but they aren’t I’m ethier shut down when I bring it up cause she don’t want to hear (mama) or I’m not taken seriously (maid of honor) or sisters telling me everything I need to and if it isn’t done how they think it should be or up to their standards then it’s not good enough for them. I’m going on a Minnie vacation for the weekend next weekend to a cabin with my fiancé. He agreed if I didn’t get out and try to clear my head I would really just loose it

I heard a story from a lady who planned her wedding in 7 days. They were not rich. The groom didn’t have a suit so her brother lent him one the day before. They had no drinks and asked the guests to bring them. They had over a hundred people and no wedding planner. It all came together because the most important thing is that you are marrying the love of your life and celebrating with those you love.


People are terrible critics and have no idea how hurtful it can be. Remember this day is for you not them. Tennessee hills are beautiful. Look for inspiration online with simple or boho themes. Talk only to those around you that are helpful, not those that aren’t. Perhaps a romantic picnic theme? You’ve got this!

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Sounds like this is a much needed mini vacay ☺️ Time to relax for a few days. I hope you are all refreshed after!

View Quoted Comment I live an hour away from my parents and I didn’t realize what I was doing when I invited 160 people to my wedding. I had no direction and no advice from my parents or his. They didn’t start taking me halfway seriously until the ending of last month I think a stand up ceremony might be a good idea because it would save a lot of room I was going to have people move their chair they were sitting in to their tables anyway so that is definitely a consideration thank you so much for that!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much 🖤

1.Take a break for a few days from planning.
Seems like you're getting very anxious ovrr tryingto please other people. Comparing your wedding to something your sister has judge because youre thinking that if they had a planner and it was bad then yours will be disasterous. Ask yourself do you actually want to move forward why and why not. Is this something that can be resolved?

2. Then have a sitdown talk with your fiance. What can he do to help the situation.
Is a lot of your family this judgemental or is it a few people? Do you think those people be happy or grateful to be there or will they ruin the mood? Will you lose a lot of $$ if you cancelled the wedding?Use a wedding checklist to make sure you have everything you need. If you have a specofic question use this site!! At the end of a day you dont need a wedding to get married. You could get married,have dinner with close family , take professional photos, go on a vacay then when the holidays come around use the decor or anyything already spent on the wedding to have a family get together/party/dinner.

Your wedding will be beautiful no matter where you have it you just Gotta make the best of it keep your hopes up I don’t know where you live but I can try to help you from where I’m at my number is 267-912-4150 please feel free to contact me have a great day

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View Quoted Comment Thank you so much 🖤 the discussion I started on here and everyone’s positivity and advice means so much thank you!!! #ladiesofweddingwire

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your advice 🖤