Help me figure out my cake situation please ☺️

I would skip the cake entirely or do cupcakes. Don't ask your guests to cut and serve messy cake in their nice clothes.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I don’t really want to ask them but my fiancé wants to ask because it’s been done before. We could cut our own small cake though

View Quoted Comment Though I do want to cut a cake for ceremonial/traditional reasons

I would skip the cake entirely! We had dessert served after dinner at our reception also, and people were too full on sweets to eat our expensive wedding cake. People took a bite or 2 to be polite, but most went in the garbage 😭

I would get a small cake for you and FH to cut, and just let the guests have the dessert served by the venue.

I would do the small cake with cupcakes. Or, if you really want to serve cake as the dessert, is there any way to knock the lemon brownie out of your venue package? Because of the issue one PP noted with no one eating the cake after dessert, we’re not serving dessert with dinner so our cake (also served with ice cream) will be the primary dessert, and then there will be a sweet option during our late night snacks for the people who do want more sugar.

Is the lemon bar a required dessert? Can you negotiate that they switch the cake for the lemon bar? if it was a community center venue, you could get away with asking aunts to cut the sheet cake in front of guests, which is not the scandal that people think it is. We’ve attended weddings where a sheet cake was cut in front of guests to order and guests said they liked that setup better than precut cake brought from the kitchen that has time to dry out since it was cut for pictures. Plus aunts and other relatives have experience usually from cutting birthday cakes. But since you are at an all inclusive venue (that provides their own food), they are going to have strict rules on what you can and can’t do. So asking your aunts to cut the cake or negotiate the cake cutting price will not be feasible unfortunately.


Also, contrary to popular belief, cupcakes are still cake. They are not an alternative for the cake haters. They also are super messy without being in formal clothes and they require a plate and fork which are never offered to keep frosting off your face and crumbs off your lap. They are not cheaper because they require more labor than a regular cake.

I would do cupcakes in your situation. Not nice to give your guests the burden of cutting and serving. If you're going to do a cake cutting, then you should offer guests cake (cupcakes count as a form of cake). I personally think it's rude for a couple to do a cake cutting and then not serve any cake to their guests