Hi all,
Just got engaged on Saturday (yay!) and we want to get married this fall, so it’s full speed ahead now. But we’re already stuck on the first major decision : where to have the wedding.
I’d initially proposed we have the wedding in his hometown in an Illinois suburb, because his grandmother is very old and his father will not fly (we live in Seattle). There’s a lot of availability at the church he grew up in, but limited availability for the reception venues I’ve been able to get ahold of, so it looks likely that the wedding would be on a Friday if we held it there.
We loosely agreed that this is the best option, but I am starting to second guess. I’ve never thought about my wedding before, so now that I’m thinking about it more I’m feeling a bit remiss at the opportunity to be able to meet with vendors and make informed decisions. Furthermore, I would like to look nice on my wedding day and I’m a bit worried there will be a higher chance I will be dissatisfied with my hair, makeup, etc on my wedding day if I’m organizing it from afar and don’t get a chance to really nail down the look. I will have about 2 weeks of PTO banked at this point and I would like to take a nice honeymoon, so I’m also worried that traveling out there a whole bunch will use up too much leave.
One other thing is that we set a $15,000 absolute maximum. If we do it in his hometown he feels obligated to invite everyone in his large extended family, and I’m a bit worried the cost will rack up. Having it here would create a nice excuse to pare down the guest list.
What do y’all think in terms of this? Does anyone have experience planning a long-distance wedding in a short time frame? Am I making too big a deal out of this and creating a false dilemma between making informed choices and having everyone we want there? Is there anything else I should be taking into account?
I’ll have to bring this up to my fiancé tonight, I just feel like a jerk for backing down a bit on my suggestion that we do it there.
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