Help maid of honor my mother in law !

I am not getting this, is it the FMIL or your grandparents causing the issue?

And who is paying? Whoever is paying has say

Sorry my stupid phone key board... okay so my grand parents are paying for it like they have booked the venue and w.e I want for the wedding they have bought. But my fmil has decided to make decisions for me because one day I needed help finding a place for the inventations I wanted done that was 97.00 and so she found a site. And I was gonna pay but instead she wanted to and she did it her way adding her and her husband on the invites and my fiance name... then just my name and nothing with my family on it when my family is paying for it. But w.e I try to decided on she tries to change or add in stuff I don't want . And when I say anything she cuts me off and acts like I'm stupid because she said I've never been to as. Many weddings as she has. So now I'm trying to find a way to be nice and cut her off of some stuff . Once she tries to buy stuff she becomes controlling on what she has bought and her ideas. And then I have my family flipping out that she is doing this. It's creates alot of tension . And one stressed out bride

I'd order my own invitations. Don't give her access to the guest list and tell her this is what you and your FH want. No is a complete sentence.

She is like very controlling on everything of every day life. She knows how to walk over me. I think im goint to buy all the stuff so it's already bought without her going with me . That way she can only help assemble things if she wants to but can't change anything that is already bought lol

FMIL as MOH that is different in itself. Do you not have a special girl friend or guy friend that could be Dude of honor? My mom, grandmother, and godmother are my wingmen but they are not that position. You need to set some limits on everyone as to what is acceptable and what is not. It's pretty simple.

Sorry you have to deal with this : (

You & FH clearly need to set boundaries with FMIL. You will need to find your backbone & deal with the situation before you have 'her' wedding & not that one you-n-FH want. Sounds like this is more than just giving her & Gparents a say, as they are helping to pay.

All my friends I had we have grown apart and don't speak anymore unfortunately.... when my fiance asked me to marry him 1 yr ago before a venue was bought and etc my fmil was showing adorable ideas and we did pre gaming center pieces etc. But then as months went on she didn't talk about any of it untill the day my grand parents booked the venue. They she started jumping in like I said. And I'm stuck between my fiance who is the only son saying let her help and my family saying why did she change this and that.. grr... I really need to get a back bone but I'm always like this even at my jobs. I'm polite quiet and just always agree and that's the problem I agree to much and bullied over. My fmil thinks because she has been to all kind of weddings and she knows what's needs done she doesn't have to listen to what is being told or anything. I can say I want m and m's in party favor boxes and she can say well I think these are better when I did not want roasted almonds lmfao everything I tell her or give her she says I didn't give her or tell her at all.. like I said "I Wil buy the inventations " then what she did was she bought and changed it to what she wanted it to say .. I am still cringing about this sub . I really want to change the invites but she already ordered them to be printed :/

Buy your own problem solved. She shouldn't have changed it resulting in a waste of money

Calmly sit her down and explain to her at the end of the day it's you special day, you appreciate suggestion but she is already had her day.

Just buy all your own stuff without her like you said before. Stop wedding planning with her and do it with Wedding Wire if you need guidance. You're going to have to stand up like a grown-up this time or nothing will change.

Sounds good guys ! Great ideas and making me feel 100× better getting advice

Stop talking with her about wedding stuff. If she tries to tell you ideas, say that you'll think about it, then change the subject.

I think you should start looking into counseling with your FH to help set up boundaries with your FMIL. She is crossing the line by ignoring your wishes for YOUR wedding, and it'll only get worse. If you're planning on having children, she might start taking over parenting and saying that you're doing things wrong, she's raised kids before and that she knows how to do it. It could definitely put a strain on your upcoming marriage. You need to start putting up boundaries with her now.

You already know your solution girl you said it yourself- get a back bone. You need to be more assertive! She'll still love you and so will your fiancé. @AwkwardToBe is right you need to be in counseling with your FH right now to work on this.

Also- I'm sorry but it's invitations not inventations!