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Just Said Yes September 2016

Help! Late thank you's

Bride-2-Be, on September 25, 2017 at 9:21 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 42

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We just celebrated our one year anniversary and we are officially "those people" who have procrastinated and made excuses and still haven't sent out thank you's. We feel guilty and have been discussing what to do about it. We've come up with 3 options and need some help deciding which way to go. 1) We just don't do them. Neither one of us is 100% comfortable with this option. My sister pointed out that it's drawing attention to the fact that we haven't done it yet. And that some people may not have even noticed. 2) Send them out now and get over the embarrassment. We'd write a note letting people know that we feel terrible, but have been caught up in our first year and are so very grateful for their gifts and presence on our big day. 3) Sending out a postcard with pictures from our first year with a line like "one year down, a lifetime to go" and writing a short thank you on the other side. Basically pretending like this was our plan all along. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!

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Latest activity by Mike, on July 26, 2019 at 1:43 PM

Devoted November 2018
txncdelphia · on September 25, 2017 at 9:22 AM
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Hand write a thank you card.
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Master July 2017
Going to the chapel · on September 25, 2017 at 9:23 AM
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2 handwritten to each recipient.
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Savvy September 2017
Amanda · on September 25, 2017 at 9:28 AM
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I'd go with #3. But sending thank yous after a year is a bit more than late.
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Devoted June 2018
HufflePuffin · on September 25, 2017 at 9:29 AM
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I don't think you need to acknowledge that your thank you card is late, but you definitely need to send them. Trust me, your guests who gave you gifts have definitely noticed that they didn't receive a thank you. I'm still peeved with my cousin who didn't send one two years ago.
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Super October 2017
Amanda · on September 25, 2017 at 9:31 AM
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Just send them out without acknowledging they are late. I just got a thank you card this week for a wedding that was on 9/10/16. FH and I laughed but still appreciated the sentiment. It's definitely better than not sending them out at all.
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Super September 2017
kirackle · on September 25, 2017 at 9:31 AM
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I echo everyone in saying send it now. I am a terrible procrastinator so fear this myself. I am setting a deadline for a week after the honeymoon and that I have to do 10 a day no matter what.

Not doing it on the chance that people might not have realized is very bad advice.
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Dedicated October 2017
MrsJohnsonToBe · on September 25, 2017 at 9:32 AM
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Hand written cards with pictures. A thank you is never late.
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Dedicated October 2017
Miss2Mrs · on September 25, 2017 at 9:32 AM
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Handwritten thank you cards.. better late than never, I suppose!
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Dedicated October 2017
OGbride · on September 25, 2017 at 9:33 AM
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Send them. Late is 10x better than never. At least someone is out there saying "so and so didn't ever send us a thank you and I'm mad" so you can at least turn that sentiment into "so and so sent me that thank you 12 months late"
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VC · on September 25, 2017 at 9:34 AM
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Definitely 2. Better late than never!!
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Devoted June 2018
NeLeibelToBe · on September 25, 2017 at 9:41 AM
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I would say send them in some way! I did not receive a thank you from a very good friends wedding four years ago and I definitely still think about it! We bought a VERY nice gift off their registry and drove over 2 hours to be there so I was very upset that we never received a single thanks!
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Expert April 2018
Millie · on September 25, 2017 at 10:28 AM
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Definitely start now!!! I've had this happen to me and I felt so disappointed by the bride and groom.
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Chelsey · on September 25, 2017 at 11:21 AM
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Do #2...better late than never. Its a huge pet peeve to never receive a thank you. #3 is just as irritating as #1... its not personal at all. It's like a slap in the face like... "hey we are happily married and we dont care what people did for us enough to specify, so here's a generic card"
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Master April 2017
EM · on September 25, 2017 at 12:06 PM
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Yeah #1 really isn't an option.

Sit down, write them all tonight, have them in the mail tomorrow.
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Champion May 2016
OG Kathryn · on September 25, 2017 at 12:14 PM
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OMG, I would be really annoyed if i hadnt got one a year out. Its rude.

You should've "caught" up on them a lot sooner than this. I dont understand how this happens. I'm sure you were able to find time to cash their checks.
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Devoted October 2017
DrEm · on September 25, 2017 at 12:19 PM
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They noticed, for sure. I still remember a wedding I went to 6 or 7 years ago where they didn't send a thank You (after putting registry info on e-vite)... send them now.
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Super October 2017
AmandaK · on September 25, 2017 at 12:21 PM
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Get this done ASAP - apologize for being late, but write/send them NOW.
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Expert July 2017
Becky · on September 25, 2017 at 12:30 PM
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Do number 2 for sure

As a side note - my cousin didn't send thank yous from her wedding - that was almost 10 years ago - trust me, people notice
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michelle · on September 25, 2017 at 12:34 PM
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People definitely have noticed so I'd send them out immediately so there are no more excuses. Life gets busy but people spent their time and money to share in your wedding day. My mom went to a wedding 10 years ago and never received a thank you and still is annoyed with it, and if that woman was to send it now, 10 years later I still believe it would be better late than never
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Master August 2017
Nicole2017 · on September 25, 2017 at 12:34 PM
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Just send regular thank you's out as you would have if it was 6 months after the wedding. I literally just got a thank you from a couple who got married the day after you and it was fine.
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