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Just Said Yes September 2020

Help!! Informal Private Wedding Ceremony Attire

Laura, on February 26, 2020 at 2:25 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 6

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Hi All -

We are having a small intimate family ceremony at sunset this summer on a Friday evening and do not want our guests to bother about getting dressed up. However, the "parents" of the bride and groom want to look "presentable" for pictures pre and post ceremony and wanted to know what was acceptable. There is no reception afterwards.

Blazer and slacks for Dads?

Summer Dresses for moms?

My mom and his mom were both in discussion the other day about getting this dress or that dress and i wanted to stop them but i guess i really don't know if it is still okay for the parents to get dressed up to the nines while everyone is in there work clothes and/ jeans and t shirt.

I also worry that even though i tell everyone it is informal, that someone will get all dolled up just to "look" better than everyone else(there's always that one person).

Someone steer me in the right direction!!!

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Latest activity by Megan, on February 27, 2020 at 12:13 PM

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Melle · on February 26, 2020 at 2:30 PM
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I feel like summer dresses are still casual enough though.
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Megan · on February 26, 2020 at 2:48 PM
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You can make suggestions (i'd say button-up shirts and slacks or summer dresses), but ultimately, someone may overdress. That happens--definitely not something to stress over.
Side note: I'd take the family out to dinner afterward as a "reception" to thank them for attending the ceremony.
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Gen · on February 26, 2020 at 2:49 PM
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I would tell people to dress “beach casual.” If you google that it comes up with recommendations for like khakis or linen pants for men and sundresses for women.

Idk your crowd but if you said “super causal and informal” I still wouldn’t wear a tshirt lol. I wouldn’t even wear a T-shirt out to dinner or something haha, I’d for sure wear a sundress even if you emphasized super casual.
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Leanne · on February 26, 2020 at 2:53 PM
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I think you can set the tone for attire in your invitation (whether traditional invitation, Facebook invite, email). Since it’s so informal, I wouldn’t stress what people who attend are wearing too much. And I’m sure the moms are just excited for the day, and want to celebrate by looking nice. Google different dress code terms, it might help.
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Laura · on February 27, 2020 at 9:59 AM
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We are doing a champagne toast and some very light hor d’oeuvres. The reception is the following day(Saturday) so they will be “fed” then lol We are doing the actual semi-formal/dressing up on the day of the reception. I just didn’t see a reason for the parents to all stress about dressing up twice when the night of the ceremony will only be about me and my fiancé. I’ve specifically asked the Friday night photographers to not get any family photos this night. Family photos and the typical “getting ready” and wedding day photos will be on the day of the reception.
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Megan · on February 27, 2020 at 12:13 PM
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Cool cool--I see where you're coming from. Hopefully, since they know the reception is the next day, they'll save any "special" outfits for then. If not, they'll probably just dress up twice, and that'll be their prerogative. They may or may not choose to stress, but it's definitely not something you should worry about on the long list of wedding to-dos, etc.
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