HELP! i'm thinking about postponing the wedding..

Honestly I think it is sorta crazy for you to have planned a wedding for a month before graduation! AHHHHH! I would be going nutz-o too!

I think if you are having serious doubts it is time to talk to FH and tell him you think you guys should postpone. There is no harm in that. More time = longer time to save up, a longer engagement period, and for you, a better time frame for a wedding! Who cares what people think, and honestly, I think everyone will understand when you tell them you are graduating the NEXT MONTH!

I knew i'd be crazy with school, so i did a lot of planning over the summer! we got engaged in june, but i just went straight into plan mode.. i always said we could get engaged and then wait for the wedding and then all of a sudden i came up with a date and everything.. i think it was all the excitement, i didn't take a second to really think about it.

I had to postpone mine after sending invites dues to money issues and a ton of things and it rained for 24 hour start on the day and was going to be outside and then again because a friend that's a part of the wedding had a stroke.

So just postpone till after you graduate and before you tell people decide what you are going to say when asked we tell most due to the friend having a stroke and we don't want to stress his recovery i had some people think we broke up and would say you did not know each other that well we have been together for 5 years

Plus, i have done a lot! a lot, a lot.

i have most of the centerpieces done, dress almost paid for, shoes, guest book, flowers, chalkboards, etc.. so i'm just not sure what to do.

i know i won't be happy with the venues that we have to choose from so far, so that's weighing on my mind too.

I guess i'll talk to FH tonight when he gets home and go from there. whew, i don't know. i don't want him to think it's for bad reasons too..

Seems reasonable and if you need to postpone for your finances, sanity, and timing, do it! it's you and your FH's day, it's important that you will be happy

Don't feel bad...I feel like postponing too...due to my classes...

It's just so overwhelming! plus, money is tight.. for example i make around $1200 a month and have $1000 worth of bills.. so that is BARELY enough to even get by, let alone put money back for the wedding. i already had some saved, but most of that is gone due to buying things already.

we have reserved one place already and it's paid for and everything (it's a park, so only $75), but maybe we could still use it (since it is our 3 year anniversary) and just do some sort of small family get together/anniversary party.. or something.

Not to mention, i don't even have a wedding party either! and i feel like i'm just "settling" with a lot of things, because i just wanna marry my FH! i'd be happy walking down the aisle in a potato sack, but i still want it to be special. and for us to both be happy at the end of the day!

I totally hear you but in our case I think it's me...we live together and I am totally content with that. It feels like marriage is asking way too much right now or ever. I don't know what to do...it feels like we should be on cloud 9 but all of the sudden reality is setting in something fierce.

I was in the same boat as you. Would have literally been getting married two weeks after graduation. And we ended up pushing it back by 8 months and it was the best decision we made. And everyone thought we were really smart about it. And now we have so much time to plan, got things on monthly payments so no money worries, and I can completely focus on finishing school. Do what you need to do and don't worry about others. If anything, they'll be completely understanding about your situation.

Bliss, I completely understand!! I've just got to talk to FH and see what he thinks. I just feel like we jumped right into it, rather I did, and FH just went with whatever.

And carly, thanks for your input! It truly makes me feel better. I've been happy with a LOT of decisions we've made, based on the wedding, but I almost feel like I have to settle due to money issues.

I hope this is what I really want (postponing it), and I'm not just having a blah day.. I've been so hyped and excited about it and now I'm just over it. So who knows, we'll see.. I guess.

Kaseyann, I'm in a similar situation due to to a family death. groom seems to think all will be OK money wise, and he's probably right for the most part, but I want more breathing room.

that and all would have been ok timeline wise under 'normal' circumstances but since our lives have been turned upside down and we are both much more stressed and upset than normal, this is not the circumstances I want to ready my wedding or say my vows under.

just let people know that the date has been changed once you have changed it. don't worry about what people think if you want to give a reason, tell them that with your school load it's turned out to be too much. reasonable people will understand, and those that don't can just learn to deal.