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Help! How to phrase no children at the wedding?

AMY, on October 3, 2017 at 7:04 PM Posted in Community Conversations 2 12

Okay so - we are having our nieces and nephews (5 kids under 7 y.o.) come to the wedding, and two of them will be in the wedding party. However, we don't want any additional children there purely because of cost. How can I phrase this on our invites without adding additional stress in the form of people being upset that my nieces and nephews are there?

I know it's my day and all that and it shouldn't really matter - but we are having a pretty small wedding (~55 adults) and I really don't want to here any sh*t about it, lol. So any advice would be fantastic!! Thanks!


Latest activity by Rosered, on October 3, 2017 at 10:49 PM
  • DoggoMom
    VIP August 2016
    DoggoMom ·
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    We addressed the envelopes to the specific guests involved (Mr. and Mrs. X), had our paper goods vendor write their names onto the RSVP, and also included the number of seats reserved for them. No one tried to alter the RSVPs or include their kids.

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  • Danielle
    Devoted September 2017
    Danielle ·
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    Don't put this on the invites. Address the invite to the people in the household who are invited. i.e. Joe and Jane Smith. Not The Smith Family.

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  • BohoRN2017
    Expert November 2017
    BohoRN2017 ·
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    We did "2 seats have been reserved in your honor". It worked for the most part, two guests asked before sending their RSVP. Another decided she rather bring her 8yr old instead of her husband... So I did have to send her a text saying we couldn't accommodate kids.

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
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    As above.

    - address the invitations to those who are invited. Don't tell people who is not invited.

    -include the number of seats reserved on the rsvp card.

    -If people change the number you will have to contact them and tell them " There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation is for __ and ___. We are unable to accommodate extra guests. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

    - If you are having a website you could include a reference to an "adult reception".

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  • MoreMoore
    VIP November 2017
    MoreMoore ·
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    We didn't put it on the invites. But we did put it on the website where they had to go to rsvp. And we addressed the invite only to the adults invited. However I will say that people (family in particular) seem to think that surely they're the exception to this and you didn't mean THEIR kids. Lots of that happening with our closer relatives. We did address it directly with them, but it was quite funny and predictable who was going to think they were special.

    ETA: we said "while we love your children, this is an adults only event"

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  • Athena
    Devoted October 2017
    Athena ·
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    We put it on our website, and only 1 person has complained about it (besides my dad who SWEARS my great niece is walking with him and I)

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  • Sara
    Devoted November 2017
    Sara ·
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    This is how we worded our reception card

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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
    Kiwibride ·
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    I wouldn't put anything on the website about it being an adults only reception because it's not - you have some children coming, just not all children coming.

    Just follow the instructions about addressing to the adults and follow up with anyone who adds them on to the RSVP

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  • Whippppss
    Dedicated September 2018
    Whippppss ·
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    "We love children and hopefully will have our own someday, but we would like to celebrate our special day with our favorite adults"

    Also, Update the invites to only invite who you want to be there.

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  • Emily
    Dedicated December 2017
    Emily ·
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    Here's one I saw on Pinterest

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  • Rachelxoxo
    Savvy October 2018
    Rachelxoxo ·
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    "Adult reception"

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  • Rosered
    Devoted January 2019
    Rosered ·
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    I don't think saying adult reception works when there will be five young children there. However, inviting the adults by name still works and correct them if they try to up the number on their RSVP.

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