HELP! How many Invites did you send & how many RSVPS??

1 invite per household, 1 RSVP per household.

Couples only need 1 invitation.

Although households with several adult children we sent each an invite.

We invited 95 people, but only 39 invitations, since there were only 35 households(4 invites went to the same house)

Also, do NOT over invite. Expect a 100% acceptance.

Edit: we had 93 people rsvp yes, and had 30+ people no show anyways. This is not the norm though.

No no no. Invite for what you can afford and do not B list! That's incredibly rude. Plus "as late as a week before"? So you're going to invite people a week before and don't think they'll feel slighted?

If you can afford to invite 300 people, then do that. I get what you're doing. You want to at least meet your guest minimum (mine is 125) but you don't invite 300 HOPING to hit 150. You never know how these things will go.

There was a bride on here over the weekend who invited over 100 and only 30 are coming.

I'm at a 40% decline rate, but our wedding is a destination for most of our invitees. I believe the rule of thumb is 20-30% decline. If you invited 200 you should end up above 150.

ETA: yes, please make sure you can pay for all 200.

Invite who you want to be there. You are going to get so many different answers. There are some who had almost 100% attendance, others who had less than 50%. Is it possible to upgrade food or drinks to make up for the cost if you come up short on guests?

We invited 140, 80 accepted and 70 showed.

Also, keep in mind this was a DW in the middle of December (holiday season)

This depends on a million variables. Figure out the maximum number you can comfortably afford to host. Don't invite more than that.

OGMary is right that the general rule of thumb is around 20%, but you absolutely CANNOT rely on that.

I say invite who you would like to come up to what you can afford and your venue max

We invited 310, 296 rsvp'd yes, 292 showed up.

You should expect everyone to come. So if you can afford 200, invite 200. If you can't invite 150 and know you will likely end up with less.

We invited 260 (100 invites - lots were families or couples) - had 164 RSVP yes, and 162 attend on a Friday night.

BUT I was prepared for all 260.

Oh my gosh... some of you pretty clearly did not read the post or cannot comprehend. I didn't say I was inviting more than I could afford.. I didn't say I was inviting people just to fill chairs... If we got 100% acceptance, that would be great, I just wanted some insight on actual numbers from people who've done it! Jeeze ya'll act like I said I was starting a honeyfund...

Thank you to those who gave actual answers, I really appreciate it! (:

Invited 80 and had 6 people decline...the only OOT guests. We got married at the courthouse so this is a celebration and not the actual wedding ceremony.

@GymRat We are not b listing, that's super tacky. All I was saying is that as our guest list updates from RSVPS and such, we can let our venue know that changing number up until a week before as they are also handling the catering, tables and decor.

@OGMary thanks for the insight! I've heard that percentage number but it's nice to here real experiences from real people. And don't worry, we would never invite more than we could pay for! Our invites go out with hopes that every person will attend, but we just want to make sure we don't come up short of that 150.

@CC - you're getting that advice because every day we see brides come here and say that they over-invited and now they can't afford to host everyone who accepted.

Even though that's not what you're saying, we HAVE to reiterate that piece of advice. Hopefully if someone else is reading this thread and thinking about over-inviting, now they'll know it's not a good idea.

@Ceelengoestocamp It can totally vary, I just thought it would be nice to get insight from those who are currently going through it! And no, unfortunately we can't upgrade if we are under that number.

@OriginalKD that's not bad for a DW though! Thanks (:

@mimitrue thanks! Those are some great numbers too!

@Bookcasehat hahaha I totally understand that. There are some crazy people on WW.. but I would never over invite! Totally get that though, that would be a nightmare.

@OhHappyPaulsons I've already talked to them and they don't offer anything if we are under the guest count, and sorry I know the post was kinda confusing! As FH and I craft the guest list, I just want to make sure we don't cut it off "too soon." We'd be super bummed if we came in under that 150 and then thought of all the friends & family we cut because we thought we'd have too many people.