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Just Said Yes August 2020

Help! How do i include these two friends

Jessica, on August 5, 2020 at 10:42 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 12
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Hello ladies ! My wedding day is quickly approaching 8/22 and I would like to have all of the minor details worked out so the week of the wedding I can literally just be pampered (I’ve had no bridal activities so I want a smooth wedding week) I have two close friends of mine that will be ushers for the wedding and one friend that will host the reception.
My problem is that I’m not sure what they’re duties should be. I have a DOC and she’ll have a team with her. Any ideas as to what I can have them do for the ceremony? As well as the reception, I’m not sure how to have my friend “host” the reception. Any help is greatly appreciated ! Thank ladies !!

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  • L
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    For your ushers, you can have them hand out programs (if you are planning to have ceremony programs), and/or you can have them escort people to their seats as they arrive. For the friend hosting the reception, you could ask them to give a speech during the reception/thank people for attending? Or they can also help put together favors (if you're planning to do favors), setup the reception space, clean up the reception space afterwards, etc.
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  • Margaret
    Rockstar October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    I'm not sure what you want from a reception host. Do you want them to seat people at tables? Sign the guest book? What are your expectations of this person?

    As for the usher, well they help seat people at the ceremony.

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    Super June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    Typically, ushers hand out programs and help guests to their seats for the ceremony. I have no idea what you mean by having a friend “host” the reception? Can you clarify?
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  • Melle
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    Melle ·
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    Do you mean you wanted them to be like an MC for the reception?
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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I'm also confused about your friend being the host. The host is whoever pays for the wedding and they often do a toast to thank everyone for coming. That's about it.
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    Super January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    This are my thoughts, too. And also, have you asked these friends what, if anything, they would like to help with? If they would prefer to just enjoy being guests, I think that would be fine, too. Sounds like since you have a DOC with a team, everything will be taken care of.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Yes! She wants to be the person to announce things ex. FOB and MOG dance, the wedding party etc but I didn’t know if there was anything else she could do as well
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    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Jessica ·
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    They both asked to be apart of the wedding. I have my two sisters as BM and my best friend since I was three as my MOH. My FH only has three close friends and I didn’t want uneven sides so I chose to stick with three on my side as well. They are both happy with they’re roles as ushers but now they’re starting to ask what they need to do the day of so I was thrown off due to me having a DOC with a team. I know they can greet the guest, show where restrooms are and where gifts can be placed but I didn’t know if there was more they could do that I was leaving off the list
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    Super June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    In all honesty, this sounds pretty odd to me. The announcing at weddings is usually done by the DJ, MC, or band leader. They're pros at announcing everything just right, and that's part of why people pay them big bucks. But if you are not going to have a DJ or band, then you'd need someone to announce things anyway, and I suppose you could have your friend do it.

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    Super January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    That's nice that they asked, but it sounds like there is nothing else needed from them. Just tell them thanks and enjoy the wedding.

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  • Jana
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    Jana ·
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    If this at the reception, the only thing I can imagine anyone doing that isn't already covered by paid vendors is a guestbook attendant, which is typically the job given to a teenager. Let them be guests and enjoy themselves. Not everyone needs to work to be honored.
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  • Super August 2020
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    The ushers welcome people and guide them to their seats ahead of the ceremony. "Host" in the context of a wedding generally refers to the person paying for the wedding, but I think you are looking for something closer to the non-wedding definition. Maybe this person could be like an MC for the reception and make the major announcements: introducing you as a married couple, welcoming the speakers, telling people you're going to cut the cake... They could also help people find their seats for the reception, like the ushers do for the ceremony. Most people will be able to find their own seats, but there are always a few people who need directions.

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