Hi everyone! We're about 5 weeks away until our wedding & my fiancee and I cannot figure out how we want to honor his family at our wedding. In the last four years he's lost his mom & grandfather (both who he was incredibly close to) and his dad... He is using his grandfathers wedding band and we are trying to figure out what to do for his mom..
He and his mom always discussed dancing to "I hope you dance" at his wedding and he really wants this song incorporated somehow.. He mentioned possibly having a slide show during the typical time that they would dance and having it play in the background, but we aren't sure if that will really upset people and crush the mood. The day is going to be incredibly hard for him and I don't want to exclude something he really wants but I don't know if a slide show is the best way to express how he's feeling because I think it might be too hard on him.. He wants it and even though my parents were weary about it, it's something that means a lot to him. I don't know if we should do that, or something else.
We don't necessarily like the open chair/candle memorial, but were open to maybe doing a memorial table, but we've both lost a lot of family and I feel like that can get out of hand..
I also suggested maybe having a slideshow play during cocktail hour and throughout the night with soft music, so that pictures and music can be incorporated but you're not asking people to listen to a 5 minute emotional slide show.. He just wants to do right by his mom and honor her in the way she deserves, but we don't know the best way to convey that..
Does anyone have any other suggestions that maybe we can do!! His 'side' is truly only his grandmother, and a few family friends.. I want to give him whatever he needs that day, but I don't want him to hurt more than he's already going to..
