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HELP- giving bridal party to some siblings and not others?

Rebecca, on February 22, 2017 at 1:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I have a large family of 5 brothers and a sister, will have 1 sister in law. I plan to have the 2 sisters as bridesmaids but can't expect my fiancé to have all 5 brothers on his side. There are 2 brothers I am (and my fiancé) are much closer to than the others. Would it be inappropriate to have the 2 closer brothers as groomsmen and the other 3 having another job like escort or something? I don't want anyone to feel left out but the 2 close brothers I feel deserve a special honor.

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Latest activity by mrsmack, on March 2, 2017 at 11:41 AM

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Jennifer · on February 22, 2017 at 1:45 PM
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I have 3 brothers. I only will have one has a groomsman
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Master October 2017
ambrok · on February 22, 2017 at 1:52 PM
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I have 5 sisters of which I've always been closer to 3 of them. I feel the 4th probably feels left out sometimes n I don't get along well with the 5th. I skipped having sisters as BM n instead have 3 nieces...They are all in their 20s. I don't have to pick/choose n it's still family based (which i wanted). This way i also didnt have to choose between friends either...
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CMC · on February 22, 2017 at 1:55 PM
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So we chose to include all of our siblings in the wedding party; I have 3 brothers and 1 sister, and H has 2 sisters and 1 brother. H's brother and my oldest brother (who is 21) were groomsmen. My 2 younger brothers (ages 15 and 12) were ushers. All of the sisters were bridesmaids.
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CoffeeNColor · on February 22, 2017 at 2:27 PM
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You have 20 months until your wedding. Wait to ask your wedding party. Don't ask until 6-8 months before.
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Master April 2017
Bemyguest · on February 22, 2017 at 2:37 PM
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Please wait to ask. Revisit this question a year from now, then ask 6-8 months before. So many relationships change in that amount of time.
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Melaina · on March 2, 2017 at 11:25 AM
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You can always have others be involved in the wedding by being ushers or guest book attendants. My Dad had that problem with my uncle he felt left out so instead my uncle made him an usher and it allowed him to be included in the wedding
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Master December 2017
Mrswelch · on March 2, 2017 at 11:39 AM
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I have two siblings, my brother is a GM and my sister is not in the wedding. You don't have to include all or nothing with siblings, just include the siblings you want.
But I do agree, wait to ask until about 6-8 months out.
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mrsmack · on March 2, 2017 at 11:41 AM
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My FH's siblings will be in the wedding, FSIL is a bridesmaid and FBIL is the best man, but I only have one brother and he's not in the wedding party. We are going to have him usher and might have him do one of our readings if he's comfortable with it. Definitely wait to ask, but it's entirely your call about who to include in the bridal party. There are other ways to honor siblings.
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