Long story:
My fiancé’s neice was a bridesmaid in my wedding. However, I recently removed her because she would never respond to my text messages regarding the wedding— nor my Maid of Honor. A lot of my bridesmaids eventually felt a way about her, because all of them would help plan my big day and not her. Since day one, she has never participated or responded to anything. I feel that is disrespectful.
Now, my fiancé is upset stating I went the wrong way about handling this. He says, I should have communicated with him about what my thoughts on her were. He says we could have called her and found out what her problems was and see where her head was regarding the wedding. He says I made a decision behind his back without discussing the issue with him. He also says as her soon to be aunt; I should have contacted her and figured out where her head is before kicking her out instead of just doing it.
I am having second thoughts about not having her as a bridesmaid. Could this have been handled differently if I would have communicated properly? Or, it doesn’t matter how I communicated because she never did anything to show she is a bridesmaid.
Note: She says the reason why she has never responded is because she never had the money to pay for it, and was embarrassed to be a part of something not knowing how she would pay. She says she didn’t want to come to us because we have a lot going on. This neice is 21 y.o. A lot of things go over her head (in life). However, I do believe at 21 you should know to communicate & let it be known what you are thinking.
Help! Someone... I don’t know what to do.
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