Help fiance vs best friend

Oh no! How come they don't get along? Does your best friend know how he feels about her being in the wedding? How long have they been like this? What a shitty situation to be in.

I think I need more information to give advice. Why don't they get along?

FH's brother and I don't get along AT ALL. We barely talk to each other because.. Well, that's a long story so we won't go there.

But FH wants him as a GM. That's his choice, not mine. FH knows I don't really want him in the wedding party.

But for FH's sake (because it IS his day too...)

I'm putting my big girl panties on and dealing with it. It's just for one day, I don't have to go out of my way to interact with him.

What do you do? Tell your FH to be an adult and put aside his feelings for one day.

Good luck!

How come they don't get along?

My fiancé has a groomsmen he told me he was doing to ask who I don't particularly care for. I don't like his lifestyle, the way he treats/talks to people (including my fiancé and I), etc. We discussed it and he was set on having him in the wedding. I've complained a few times but he's not budging and as of yesterday is now a groomsman. Regardless of my feelings they have been friends since grade school.

I can't stand FH's best friend. It's a long story, but basically he treats FH like crap and before FH and I got engaged he was telling people that we shouldn't be together. They have been friends since grade school and FH had always planned on having him as the best man. As much as I can't stand him, FH still cares for him and wants him to be best man. That's his choice. I can't even be in the same room with this man but have decided that for my wedding day I'll just have to suck it up. I have to remind myself that I'm doing this for FH not for his friend. Let your FH know how important it is to you to have her in the wedding. They don't ever have to get along, he just has to keep the peace with her for one day.

We need more information but with what I've got it seems like you're surrounded by childish people.

I can't stand FHs brother and he's his best man! I've complained seeing if FH would change his mind but he's not. So I've excepted it and put on a smile for my FH.

Your FH and friend need to put their differences aside that day! Good luck with everything.

It's hard to advise without more information. But my thinking is that your spouse should always come first. I'm curious why there's this much strife between your fiancé and friend?

Are you guys 17? This seems like childs problems unless one of them has done super awful things to the other.....

My best friend love my husband because I do. He is my family and she is the women I would choose as my sister. Even if they weren't each others fans they would suck it up for me.

As an aside - they are so much more similar to each other than they are to me. But it makes sence that my closest friend and partner would have similar personalitys that attract me to each.

Have they had sex? Or did she sleep with his brother? Or his father?

Seriously, those are the only reason sI can think of why he won't want her there next to you/won't play nice for one day.

Hey, Brandi. I am a marital counselor, and without more information, I would guess that both your FH and your BFF are jealous of each other. Unless your husband is abusive or controlling, my advice would be, make it *clear* that he is the center of your world, that he comes first, etc. You may be surprised how much he warms up to your bestie once he no longer feels like he is competing for your affection. And if he is nicer to her, your bestie may come around.

WHY don't they get along? This would be a huge red flag for me. My DH loves all my friends and my friends love my DH, and I wouldn't surround myself with friends or a partner who childishly couldn't be around each other. Someone needs to grow up.