I just wrote a first draft of my vows and I am SUPER nervous about them. I can't help but worry that they'll be too corny or boring or not strike the right balance between lighthearted and serious. I really never do this type of writing/speaking, so would really appreciate any honest feedback/suggestions!
Ten years ago when I came to [college] campus for the first time, I remember how exciting it was to see my new classmates around town that very first week. After having a conversation with another new student in the hotel parking lot, my mom told me “you never know which of these people might become your lifelong friends”. Well, I don’t even remember the name of the guy from the parking lot, but I wish I could visit my insecure but hopeful 18-year old self and tell her about us. I would tell her how fulfilling it is to have deep, technical discussions about psychology, cooking, TV, and politics with someone who cares about those things like I do and also how fun it is to quiz you about doctor stuff you definitely forgot. I would tell my past self that with you, I feel safe, known, and truly supported and I would tell her how deeply good it feels to be here for you too. I would also tell her that for three whole years, this love would be hiding in plain sight until we were ready to find it.
Every day for the past five and a half years, I've become more and more certain that I want to share a life with you. I love you for your thoughtfulness, your trusty moral compass, your sweet face, and all your other amazing qualities. I also love you for your imperfections. I promise to appreciate you even when I'm also challenging you. I promise to put our family first and to hold you in my heart forever. And if we are so lucky as to grow old together, I promise to celebrate with you, on our umpteenth anniversary, the same way we always have: with delicious food, a good show, and a kiss.
