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Just Said Yes October 2018

Help! Father of the bride suit

Elizabeth, on August 2, 2018 at 12:25 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 4
First, let me start by saying this was my fault. I wasn’t clear. I have been procrastinating about wether both my father and step father would walk me down the aisle. Also, my step father doesn’t spend money on clothes. He’s a very practical man. If I would have them walk I would just allow him to wear his black suit pants that he already owns and a button up shirt. But then I mentioned to my mother that maybe they should be in a charcoal grey. Our wedding colors are navy, burgundy, grey, and gold. So he started looking for charcoal grey suits online. And I was like great. He can wear a full suit... grey. Well he ordered a grey one online with the help of my mother and it didn’t fit well so he sent it back. He then took it upon himself to go suit shopping... alone. Which, I know I have not approached this with much formality so that is my fault. Well he came back with a suit that everyone in the store said looked great on him. He feels good in it. And it was only $150. He’s so proud he handled it by himself. But... it’s black. What do I do?! If they are both walking me, does that mean my dad needs to wear black as well?! If they are wearing black suits should they wear white shirts? If they are both wearing black suits with whit shirts and by groom and his only groomsman are in navy suits with brown shoes, with the dad’s not look too formal? I don’t want to hurt my step father’s feelings. But with 2 dads in black and 2 guys standing up front in navy(groom and best man) is this going to look ok? My dad asked if he should get a grey suit and I don’t know what to tell him.

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Latest activity by queenbee, on August 2, 2018 at 2:33 PM
  • Jazmin
    Devoted January 2020
    Jazmin ·
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    Being that your step dad already found a suit that he looks and feels good in, in black, I think that you should simply have your father wear a black suit as well. That way they aren't mismatched as they walk you down the aisle. IMO the parents of the bride/groom shouldn't have to match the wedding party so long as they aren't wearing anything outrageous (White suit, when everyone's wearing Navy, for example). It's fine that they simply wear what they're comfortable in.
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  • Amy
    Devoted July 2018
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    I think you're majorly over-thinking this. Have step dad wear his black suit, if your dad wants to wear black or grey, either will look just fine. These are all neutrals and won't look jarring in person or in photos, don't stress! As for the dads matching the G/GMs, this also is a non-issue. My dad wore a grey suit, black shoes, white shirt, purple tie and the G/GMs wore blue & navy suits, brown shoes, and floral ties and everyone looked great! I know it's easy to get caught up in details that seem like a big deal in the moment, but try not to waste your energy and stress on this when there are so many other things you can focus on Smiley smile

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I didn't give my father, stepfather or fiance's father any direction. I just said "a suit would be great, any color you want!" so I'm hoping they all look different since they are buying their suits and I want them to buy a suit they like. I'll probably buy them all ties in our color scheme and they will all have boutineers.

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  • queenbee
    VIP October 2018
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    Why do they have to match? As long as they are comfortable and look put together, I don’t think anyone will care if they’re wearing different colors. If one is wearing black and the other grey, I think that would look nice. I let my FFIL pick what he wanted to wear, and my dad needs a little more help but I told him what color everyone else picked and that he can match or get what he wants. It’s his choice. They don’t need to match. Suits are generally neutral colors that go with anything.
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