First, I will say that my fiance and I have been together for nearly 8 years. We pushed off getting married in order to buy a home, but he finally proposed on February 26th on a trip to Cancun that we managed to squeeze in riiiiiiiight before the world closed down.
I really wanted to get married this year, and have the day pretty much planned at this point. We picked a date of 9/26, in Cape Cod which is a very special place for us. We rented a large house for our closest family and friends overlooking the water and planned on a long weekend celebrating with the people most important to us.
When we made these plans in March, we were obviously optimistic that we would safely be on the other side of Covid by then, while still ahead of a winter spike. Obviously, that's not really the case now. We have always planned for a small wedding, only about 20 people, but now I'm getting nervous with everything going on. My fiance's best friend has even voiced concern about bringing his wife and new baby there, which I 100% respect. That being said, we've made a lot of plans now. We're asking all of our guests to be extra cautious and to refrain from being around anyone outside of their homes without masks in the two weeks leading up to our event. And my sister/MOH, who is the only person coming from out of state, has agreed to drive instead of fly and to be tested immediately before leaving.
It's been difficult to talk about this with friends and family who don't fully understand how I'm feeling. I've waited so long for this moment. I'm already 36 years old and don't want to put this off much longer. I'm so beyond ready to marry my best friend with the people we love the most around us. I've planned the exact day that I want and think we are taking all the necessary precautions. But I obviously can't know for sure what the world will look like in 7 weeks. I've already missed out on so many of the moments and celebrations I wanted to experience through this process (engagement party, dress shopping, bachelorette....). Some days I think we should just go to town hall, elope, and try again next year. But then I get upset because the thought of not having this day breaks my heart. Our original plan was always to have a small ceremony this year and a large party next year with our extended family and friends. Pushing it back to next year will make that illogical, and the idea of choosing between replanning my entire day to fit in all of our extended group OR never celebrating this with all of the other people in our lives kills me.
I need some help. Obviously I know there is no easy button that can be pushed that will make the right decision clear. But I guess I need some validation that I'm not just being selfish, and maybe some ideas on how all of you would handle this.