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Just Said Yes August 2016

Help Coping with Family Pressure

Cassey, on June 14, 2016 at 11:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

My fiance and I have been very happy with the idea of elopement with just the two of us and dog since we started this adventure - it came to light how crushed the parents would be so we expanded to the immediate (10 ppl). About three days into our engagement we had a date which is about 3 months out. We understand this is a pretty short time frame but we gave as much notice as we could since we altered our original wedding plans to fit family. The problem is that daily I am getting up to 4 calls between the invited asking if we have picked a ceremony, a date, etc. All of this is on our website. If we try ignoring calls etc. they call my fiance; we assigned jobs. We have tried to discuss how their constant checking is actually stressing us out and taking away from the fun we have of exploring other details (still trying to plan reception).

What else is a bride-to-be and her equally frustrated groom to do? We are starting to dread the day since this isn't letting up and isn't very fun

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Latest activity by Rachael, on June 15, 2016 at 9:20 AM
  • P
    Dedicated June 2016
    Private User ·
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    "If you cant take time to read the website I cant take time to tell you about it, sorry"

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
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    Return the calls?

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  • Steffany
    Super August 2016
    Steffany ·
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    Maybe they aren't all that internet savvy? It might be worth it to send out some kind of STD or even go ahead and send invitations so they can have all of the information.

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  • kiandra
    Master October 2016
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    Why not just tell them and leave it at that. Or text it to them this way they have something in writing that they can always reference if they forget

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  • Mrs.D
    Master July 2016
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    I'd make 10 copies of an invite then, so they have a paper copy to refer to

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  • JPL
    VIP March 2017
    JPL ·
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    10 people and you're getting mad at them for calling you? I have 75 and get questions all the time. I happily answer.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    I'd just tell them once everything is finalized you will notify them and that all planning decisions are not final. And also direct them to the website.

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  • BetterThisTime
    Expert December 2016
    BetterThisTime ·
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    I totally get how some asking questions over and over can be stressful. Especially if you originally wanted to get an elopement, but felt pressured to have something a bit larger.

    Weddings are stressful and when you have people micromanaging your planning, it's hard to keep your cool.

    But I'm afraid it's just what happens. I don't think there is a way to keep people from asking questions.

    Good luck OP

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    Just Said Yes August 2016
    Cassey ·
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    Thank you everyone for the feedback! Great tips and reassuring that this just comes with the territory!!!

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  • Rachael
    Expert October 2015
    Rachael ·
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    Three months isn't a lot of notice IMO, so you need to go above and beyond communicating the details. If you're getting a ton of questions, it's probably because YOU haven't done a good enough job doing that.

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