---help---church troubles

I would definitely look into another church and honestly if that is how they treat you why would you want to be a member or even continue to go there? She apparently does not give a rat's you know what about your wedding nor the fact that you already paid and will promise that date. She seems to be very uncaring and is giving you the brush-off. I would definitely look around your area and see if there is another church that is willing to host your wedding and if not would you be willing to get married in a different venue but by someone of the Catholic Church? I know it's not the same but I am assuming that invitations went out by now and that may have to be a last-minute backup or worst-case change the date.

She sounds very pushy, like she's trying to sell you a piece of jewelry quickly. It feels like all she wants is for you to be a member, and thats it.

View Quoted Comment Yeah that's what I told my fiance... seems like shes tryna give me the run around. Apart of me feels like she double booked and rather than tell me the truth shes saying I have to become a member as an excuse forcing me to choose a different day. But yes we are definitely open to getting married in any type of church. As long as its Christian. I already have the venue. Just need somewhere local to have the ceremony. But no just save the dates have gone out recently. Invitations go out in February.

View Quoted Comment Right! Money, money, money.... Smh sad. I told my fiance I bet if we were paying 1700.00 to get married in the main sanctuary she wouldn't be giving us this much trouble. Smh

I’m starting to get the impression she wants you to become a member. 🤔

A question to ask her is what would they have done for out of state guests. Do they have to members too? Also, she’s a deacon’s wife; does she work as a secretary as well? This sounds Catholic, if it is then speak to the priest as well.

View Quoted Comment Obviously! lol but that was not mentioned at first when I told her we weren't. I asked if it was ok or if it would be a problem and she said no that it was fine. And now she's saying even if we become members and my papers are then accepted that does not guarantee the date she first "reserved" for us. Point is she was very unprofessional and unorganized. She should have said all this when we first signed up for the class we took to get married there. Now here we are less than 4 months till my wedding date without a sure location for my wedding ceremony. She could have saved me a whole lot of stress by just simply communicating the correct information to begin with.

View Quoted Comment Right! I want to go ahead speak with him, but its interesting that she's saying "first become members then talk to the father." As if I shouldn't talk to him about the situation right now. I find that just alittle bit odd. And not only that.... someone told me they dont think the next meeting to become members is until the end of January. Wedding is first week of April... Talk about nerve racking.

View Quoted Comment I really, really wanted to ask all those question but I held my composure. LoL

I am all in favor of religion and hold it close to my heart, but this sounds more like a push for members. I personally don't understand why you must be forced into a membership on order to use their service. This isn't a Hulu subscription. You have been attending the church for awhile and membership will not suddenly make you more religious. I would find someone else and write the costs off as a loss. There are plenty of nondenominational officiant that will be glad to give you a religious or non-religious wedding.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jennifer that makes me feel a bit better. ❤ I will look into it.

WOW!! I am so so sorry this is happening to you. Our church has been fantastic even with my having to have my first marriage annulled. I would call the local Diocese and explain the situation. Then call your Fr. and tell him whats going on. Were you baptized Catholic? That holds a lot of weight in most Catholic church situations.

View Quoted Comment Yup! I was baptized, communion, confirmation, the whole nine girl. It's crazy right! I honestly feel she double booked and rather than just tell me she messed up on her end she would rather me apply again as a member and be forced to pick a different date. Smh it is what it is though. I got a hold of a church today that I was referred to. It's not catholic, but I'm play with that especially in such short notice. I just want to be married in the house of God ya know.

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Yup I feeeeeeel that. I'm sorry you had to rush around like this. But you're right it is what it is so just do what you can to enjoy it now!

I'd be tolerating NONE OF THIS and finding another place for my ceremony pronto!