Help: choosing the last bridesmaid

....why do you need to add 1 more person? Your bridal party is supposed to be those closest to you. Read through all of the posts on here about bridesmaid troubles. These issues are more likely to occur if you include people just for the sake of having a certain number of people. The aesthetic is not worth the interpersonal drama. Also, asking 2 people to fight for a spot in your wedding party would probably cause hurt feelings.

View Quoted Comment Hmm i see your point. Thank you for the input!
I was just wondering if anyone has done it.. the other members of the bridal party come from different stages of my life (ie i don’t see them often anymore, but they mean a lot to me) so I wanted to include another person who also means a lot to me but more from the “current” part of my life.

If the date in your profile is correct, then you have A LOT of time before your wedding. You usually want to wait until about a year before you ask your bridal party. Relationships change. You want the people up there with you to be those who are the most important to you, and that can change often.

Do not have them choose between themselves, because what will happen is both of them will tell you no. I have not done this, but if someone asked me and another co worker or friend to do this, I would tell her no. This will make work extremely awkward for all of you and may even affect your friendships, which I'm sure you don't want!

Just keep the group you have!

View Quoted Comment Thank you again!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your input, Jennifer!

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Of course!

I would wait a little longer before asking anyone else. See who you're close to when May 2020 rolls around. It's best to ask your bridal party closer to a year out so you only ask people you are currently close with. Sometimes brides ask friends they aren't that close with or sometimes the friendship changes as time goes on and the bride is disappointed when they have a bridesmaid that never speaks to them and doesn't want to come to any pre-wedding events.

So I recommend seeing how the friendship with these 2 girls is by May. You could always ask both or neither. Uneven bridal parties are very normal.

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much, Brittany! Yes, I wasn’t planning on asking until May.. I just think it’ll be the same situation by then since these are coworkers I’m going to be spending time with mostly equally from now til then, so just thinking ahead. But I’ll just worry about it when the time comes!!