Help!!! choosing between two very different venues

So we have narrowed our wedding venue to two top choices. they're totally different and both have pros and cons and I really can't decide.

Venue one is near our house, about 25 mins away. it's beautiful and has more of a garden vine that I initially pictured for the wedding. it would have to be daytime because of the price and availability, which I don't mind as much but it feels a little rushed and early because it would have to be 11:30-4 to accommodate their night wedding. but it would be very easy for everyone to get to and no one would have to stay over, etc. But it does have an after party bar if we wanted to hang out. Nothing special. i think most people would probably go home though. We don't have any special connection to this place, it's just a beautiful place nearby. it's the cheaper, easier, super beautiful option.
The other venue is in a shore town about 2.5 hours away but it's a popular, lovely destination and has more of a vintage vibe that's totally my style. It is a dream wedding spot for me but I thought it was completely out of budget so when I started planning I went more for low-key garden vibe. it would require everyone to stay over and has a 2 night minimum. but there are 1-2 hotels walkable (literally 2 blocks) that would allow one night. It is more expensive than the other venue but includes more. It is one of my favorite places ever and my fiancé and I visited it together a few times too. it's more stylized and not the garden vibe I pictured (because I didn't think it was an option) but it is so "us" in every other way. it has more to do and see overall and would be more of a special day... and possibly night before/morning after whereas the other place feels like hi, bye.
All things being equal I'd probably pick the shore venue but I am not high maintenance AT ALL and hate putting people out whatsoever so I hate the idea of asking people to go to a wedding that's not around the corner. I'd be perfectly happy with the North Jersey venue and we would save money but my fiancé thinks we only do this once so we should go all out. I've gone all over the place for weddings but also now a lot of our friends have kids so it is less manageable for people than it was 6-7 years ago. I would probably be disappointed if a lot of the people I've gone above and beyond for said no.
But... my bachelorette party is no frills. My shower is local. so...that's low expectations. I dunno what to do!!!