So my best friend (J) is getting married...YAY!!! I am so excited. HOWEVER: we are getting into the planning phase for hair, makeup, transportation, etc. and I dont know what to do about this -
My best friends sister is a hairdresser (and a very good one) who I have used for years. We will call her E. So E had offered to do my hair for my own wedding back in 2016, which I graciously accepted. Problem was: it turned out horribly. She showed up extremely late to start my hair and my MOH's hair (J - E's sister). E spent an extra long amount of time to make sure J's hair was perfect (it was) but then she left little to no time for me. It ended up with her having to re-do it three times because it just didnt look good and neither of us were happy with the first two attempts. E was un-confidently satisfied with the final result but I was so upset. She had formally done my hair before for other events and it looked amazing but I seriously cried for days after receiving my wedding pictures and seeing how bad my hair really looked. Honestly, I'm still upset about it, but E is like family to me so 3ish years later, I still occasionally go to her for cuts. I recently went to her to have my hair dyed and was just as disappointed as I was on my wedding day. I made an appointment at her salon, but E decided last minute to take another client, leaving me with virtually no time to do the dying properly and the PERMANENT dye washed out of my hair in two days. She tried to fix it, twice, charged me full price all three times and I was still back to my natural color within two days of leaving her salon. The last few times I've let E touch my hair since my own wedding, I have left disappointed and on the verge of tears. I have expressed this to E that I was not really happy (after each appointment- I didnt let it stew) with the results I've been getting and her non-chalance and overall dismissal of how I felt about my appearance is really really sad for someone who also says I am like her family. Unsurprisingly, I've decided to look around for a new hairdresser.
NOW - all this being said, my best friend, J, is insisting I go to E's salon to have my hair done on the day of J's wedding..... This might seem like a simple solution for someone on the outside, but how in the world do I tell my best friend and her sister that I absolutely do not want E doing my hair anymore. I KNOW this wedding is NOT about me or how I look, but dont I also deserve to at least be confident in my appearance? I'm completely at a loss on how to approach this and not hurt anyone's feelings and to not affect any part of J's wedding day plans.