Help! Bridal Shower/Majority of Guests out of town

Have someone choose a place, and then send out the invites. If they can make it, they can. If not, oh, well.

You can have however many showers people are willing to throw, but don't invite the same people to multiple showers.

The proper etiquette is that you hand over a guest list and stay out of it. No one is going to fly anywhere for a shower. Sorry.

I have family a few hours apart not states but for my sister she had two showers one near my extended family thrown by my aunt, and one where we grew up (we were military so the only family to ever leave the island, I'm from NYS as well). That worked out really well for my sister. However, with my shower my mom was throwing it at the house and was so unbelievably excited to throw it for me and only a few people from my extended family came. In total we had maybe 25 that day out of 65 invited. That was a few hours apart, not fun to drive in one day but a drive that everyone probably has done in one day at least once in their life. In conclusion, have a shower whether it's a few local ones or just one and invite people. If they don't show then that's fine, but many people tend to send a gift anyway. At least if they are planning to attend the wedding. Some people don't everyone is different but I still think you should enjoy a shower and having a fun day!

You don't plan a shower. You wait for someone to offer to host a shower. If no one other than your sister has offered to host, you won't have a shower.

I live in Nevada but my FMIL threw a shower in Washington to which FH and I flew. I gave her a guest list that had some of my friends and family from Idaho. Several of them made the trip, but most didn't. It was still wonderful to have the women there who were there.

Your sister decides who she wants to invite based on distance and their relationship to you. You don't dictate how many showers you have. You stay out of it.

For reference, I had two. One on my side planned by family friends and aunts and one on my husband's side planned by an aunt and my MIL. All I provided was addresses when asked and dates that worked for me.

I'm sorry, I didn't clarify enough in my mental state of frustration.

My sister (MOH), BMs, mom and FMIL all have asked me what I want. They all want to throw me a shower, but they don't know logistics because of everyone being out of town.

I don't expect everyone to come to the shower, nor do I expect everyone to come to the wedding because of the location. I am not at all upset about it, it's expected when the majority of our guests don't live by us.

This all came up because my sister called me today and told me she needs to know what I want, but I don't know what's proper, and honestly, I don't know what I want.

I would do multiple small showers. I don't see an issue with multiple showers when logistics are an issue.

Thanks for the help guys! I feel a little better. I guess the right thing to probably do is multiple small showers.

Thanks again!

I'm in Vegas and all my family is in RI. I am going to visit and my aunt offered to throw me a shower. Obv my FMIL or anyone from his side will not be there but I don't care. I'm just happy my aunt wanted to throw me one. If she hadn't offered, though, I wouldn't be having one. To me it's not that big of a deal if I had one or not.

What did you end up doing?