Help! Big Error on Marriage Certificate, "sigh"

Wow! Well was she off by a couple days, the wrong year, how bad is it?

I got Married Friday August 12, she put the 13th!!!! I makes me so pissed every time I think about it. Such a careless mistake.

For me, it would be a funny story to tell the kids, but I didn't pick a date that had a lot of meaning for us, so maybe I'm just not understanding why one day would be a big deal. To each their own. For $500 and 1 day, I would say you shouldn't go back to her.

Ugh, that's a tough situation. Maybe both parties can pay half? Or just leave it and have a funny story to tell your kids.

That totally sucks, I'm sorry! I would forget about it since it's 500 dollars to change a piece of paper. So long as your marriage isn't void because of it, I wouldn't worry about it.

It's one day. I wouldn't pay or ask anyone to pay for a 24 hour difference. Do you have issues with the insurance? Do you or he need to be covered on the insurance on August. 12th? If you don't have any medical expenses then why worry about it?

I mean really, who is really going to be looking at your marriage certificate every day?

I would talk to the courts to make sure your marriage isn't void since she put down the wrong date. If it's not, move on.

Just feeling nostalgic about it. But I didn't even think the marriage was not valid. Oh I would be sooo pissed if it's not. I'll call the court house on Monday to double check.

I'll try to get passed it. I'm in Florida now, I was considering getting it fixed today but first I met with the photographer and decided maybe I should wait and put that money towards the album .

Thanks.

I wouldn't make a big deal about it. It's an annoyance, but it's not worth $500 to change it. If it was hired help, not a friend- I'd make a bigger issue.

I would def give her a call. I now how that feels cause with my sons birth certificte his time of birth is off and it bothers me. I told the lad it was wrong and she told me theres nothing she cn do about it. Ughh It bothers me every time I see it. I would def me a little upset and call her up and change it but thats just me. If I told her so many times to let me see the licence and then to received it and have it wrong of course i would be pissed cause you asked to see it esp if you didn't even sign it.

That is so weird; in NJ, it doesn't cost anything to make the correction. I would, however, check into the whole process to make sure that your wedding is valid if the wrong date is on the paperwork. And if there is a charge, she should pay for it; it's her mistake, and I'm sorry, it's a big one.

I would say leave it alone for $500 blooming dollars.

BUT, if it means your marriage is now invalid.... Oh heck yes I would be making her pay for it and any other costs incurred to make your marriage vaild. Because that is just a bunch of bull honky.

UPDATE: So i spoke with someone at the court house again and they really suggested that I get it changed and the marriage is legal. She said "you just don't want know what may arise in the future and it can be MORE costly in the future". It's a bummer we have to go through this. If only I had insisted a little harder that I see it. It was a crazy evening. So now I have to figure out if I am going to ask my cousin (the officiant) for at least half the money. . Thanks guys for all the advise.

I'm always amazed at what issues arise that I never thought could. I too am having a DW so I'll make sure to see the certificate.

Good luck with the choice K&R. Maybe ask your parents what they think you should do? Is it their niece. Would it burn a bridge to ask your cousin for the money?

Is she performing other services and possibly messing up dates on those certificates too?

@ Meghan, She's a more a 2nd or 3rd cousin. My mom's generation. My dad thinks she should pay, my mom and husband said to leave it alone. I feel she needs to know especially for future wedding she'll perform. Next time she won't be so lucky. The next person will definitely demand the money back.

Do you think maybe she looked at her phone for the date and it was after midnight so the date was the 13th?

This is a hard one but if it's going to bother you, then take care of it. If it's worth $500 to YOU then that's all that matters.

I think I would make her pay for it. You asked to see it and make sure it was all right. She did not want to show you. I would tell her she has to pay for the mistake. I would be very mad if I where in your shoes. But that is me.

I don't think you should make her pay for it.. Its a mistake. I don't really see why its necessary to change it in the first place, but if you must, that's your decision, so pay for it yourself.

Just out of curiosity did they say what could go wrong in the future?

@ Trina, yes, i think she signed it on the 13th but I just can't see how you make a mistake like that after you performed such a memorable event.

@ Tach, NO they didn't.

@ KK she's a professional, She didn't come cheap although she was family. I didn't pay her for her services but I did pay for her hotel accommodations for 2 nights in South Beach Miami, Plane tickets, a regular guest plate not a vendor's plate. That's about $700.00 she costed me now add an additional $500 plus my travel to Florida.

for this mistake I was better off hiring a stranger. Thank you for your opinion.

Are you sure it costs $500 to correct a clerical error?