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Allison
Beginner April 2022

Help! Bent my engagement ring!

Allison, on November 15, 2021 at 8:02 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 15

Hey everyone! I am looking for anyone who might have a similar experience to mine who is willing to share what they did. My 18k gold ring snagged and bent. The stones are completely undamaged and are secure in the prongs. I've had it looked at by just one jeweler so far and they gave me two options:


A) they can heat the ring and bend it back, but just like when you bend a tree branch and then bend it back, it will always be weaker and prone to happen again. I'm worried the diamonds (especially the side three stone pears) won't sit the same if they do it this way, but they are telling me that would not be a problem. The main problem is that the metal will be weaker.

B) they can order this exact setting with all new side stones & pavé stones, but they will keep my center stone and reset it in the new setting. This is essentially a brand new ring, sparing the center stone. Something about this takes away from the sentiment of it being *my* ring Smiley sad But the benefit to this is that it's a sturdy, unflawed, new gold band.


I do have Jewelers Mutual insurance with a $500 deductible. Option A would cost ~$400, maybe less. Option B would cost me the deductible, but they told me that Jewelers Mutual might waive the cost of the deductible, but I don't understand this... is it because they would salvage the old damaged band and waive the deductible?


Has anyone had a similar experience? What did you do? Were you given any other options besides these? How was Jewelers Mutual to work with?


I'm so so so sad and upset, any kind advice is welcome! THANK YOU!


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Latest activity by Rainbow_Pearls, on August 30, 2022 at 5:04 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would get a new setting, but in 14k gold. Gold is a soft metal, and 18k is softer than 14k, so if you get 14k it will be a bit more durable and less prone to bending.
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  • Allison
    Beginner April 2022
    Allison ·
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    Thank you for this idea! I am now going down the 14k vs 18k gold rabbit hole, comparing how the two look side by side. The band is so thin I don't know if it would even be noticeable, but I do love the pop of yellow gold seen with 18k.

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    My mom is in the jewelry business and, unless you are REALLY focusing on it and have 2 side by side, there really isn't a huge difference in color in person.
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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    I agree with this suggestion! I’m afraid with 18k you would keep running into this problem.
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  • Rainbow_Pearls
    Just Said Yes June 2028
    Rainbow_Pearls ·
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    I agree with this suggestion! I’m afraid with 18k you would keep running into this problem.

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  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
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    This is exactly why I prefer 14k. I use my hands a lot and having a small child I knew eventually something like this would happen during play time.


    I think you’re making the right move going with 14k.
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  • Allison
    Beginner April 2022
    Allison ·
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    Let me know if you're mom has any other solutions aside from the two I've been offered so far... I've only seen on jeweler so far, but plan on getting a second opinion tomorrow. Thank you for your advice!! Smiley smile

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    That's kind of it. Either get it reset or fix it knowing it's going to be weaker. You can maybe try to add more gold to make it stronger, but that will bulk it up, which would change the look.
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    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Agree with this.
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    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    If you're sentimental about this ring, you could have it bent back, then solder it to your wedding band once you're married
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    Savvy July 2022
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    I would have a new band made with a stronger metal. But it seems the original is sentimental so like above I agree to keep it and use it somehow else. Good luck I’m sure this isn’t easy
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  • P.t.
    Dedicated December 2022
    P.t. ·
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    I would get the new band because if it already bent and they fix the current one which would make it even weaker, then you’re going to keep having them same problem. This may eventually damage the diamonds or crack the entire ring. Since the ring has a sentimental value for obvious reasons, can you involve your fiancé? Maybe he can pick it up and present it to you when the work is completed? Maybe he can choose the band (if that’s an option)? Or he can decide how to make this special so you can continue the sentimental value in the process.
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  • Allison
    Devoted May 2022
    Allison ·
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    I'm not even sure if you could do this, but maybe you could have the gold band turned into stud earrings? I think that would be cute!

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  • Kim
    Savvy September 2022
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    So pave makes a ring significantly less sturdy, and this will be exaggerated in a ring with a softer metal like 18k gold. My ring is solid 18k gold and is perfectly sturdy, but my setting was customized for my diamond. Can I ask what the width of your ring’s shank is? It looks like your ring may be too thin to be structurally stable with such a large center stone and the pave. I would either get a new ring without pave or look at 14k gold, but still maybe see if they can make the shank thicker.
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  • Rainbow_Pearls
    Just Said Yes June 2028
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    I would get the new band because if it already bent and they fix the current one which would make it even weaker, then you’re going to keep having them same problem. This may eventually damage the diamonds or crack the entire ring. Since the ring has a sentimental value for obvious reasons, can you involve your fiancé? Maybe he can pick it up and present it to you when the work is completed? Maybe he can choose the band (if that’s an option)? Or he can decide how to make this special so you can continue the sentimental value in the process.
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