Help!!!! Am I being petty and should I invite her ?

If you don’t want to invite them and they won’t add any positivity to your special day then don’t invite them. You should surround yourselves with those who love and support you. Leave the drama cousin out of it for your own peace of mind.

I think it’s ok not to invite her. Especially considering she didn’t invite you

You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to invite. But do you think it would cause conflict/drama in your family if you didn’t?

It's your wedding you don't have to justify who you choose to invite or not invite. We invited our guests based on relationships not titles (cousins, aunts, uncles) etc. Do you truly have current relationships with those invited? If not you might want to rethink your guest list.

Most of the guest list is my fh side very close family

"So sorry. COVID-19 is limiting our guest list."

You don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to invite. I have a grandmother who I am not inviting to my wedding because she doesn’t ever bother with me and when she does, it’s only to cause a huge scene and bring more attention to herself. She also put on a spectacle at Thanksgiving making some of my other family very uncomfortable and basically saying she doesn’t care about my aunt’s health as my aunt is battling cancer right now. I don’t want that disrupting my wedding day, therefore she can sit it out. So you can absolutely do the same for this girl. People don’t like it? Then maybe they should change their attitudes.

I’d ask yourself “would I invite her if she wasn’t having a wedding we weren’t invited to?” and if the answer is still no I wouldn’t feel bad about not inviting her at all. Don’t feel like you need to invite people you don’t want there.

She sounds like someone you wouldn't want there. I have a bratty cousin, too. She's getting invited, but I know she won't come. Maybe this snobby cousin of yours will opt-out anyway!

Let me tell you this and I am speaking from my many years of experience dealing with bridesmaids, always remember that your wedding is about you and your fiancé. It is going to be your big day! Do not let anyone, not even your mom make you feel uncomfortable.... and I use the word mom in a general context as an example. The fact that you are feeling uncomfortable you shouldn’t invite her. It is going to be the one day you will remember forever and don’t let anything or anybody make you feel miserable. I have seen countless brides have mental breakdown in front of me on their wedding day because of family exceptions. Always remember you and your fiancé is in control of who you invited. Stay bless