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Heartbroken but proud of my sister in law

Cynthia, on May 17, 2019 at 12:34 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 15

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My future sister in law will not be able to be a bridesmaid after all. She is in the navy. And right now she is in Guam. And unfortunately they will not let her come home for the wedding. I knew that I was taking a risk with this happening. But I wanted her to feel included no matter how far away she is. With that being said! How do I include her in the wedding? I think she is an amazing young woman and we couldn't be more proud of everything she is doing. I know my fh and I are going to miss her a little extra that day!

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Latest activity by Heather , on May 18, 2019 at 8:49 AM

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Jakie · on May 17, 2019 at 12:45 AM
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I do not have any ideas for you yet but I am so sorry to hear this. God bless her!!
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Cynthia · on May 17, 2019 at 1:48 AM
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It's okay. She is doing what she wants. And by the of the wedding she will be in Australia! So I'm a little jealous.
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Jakie · on May 17, 2019 at 2:03 AM
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Oh my. I have always wanted to go down under!!!
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Amber · on May 17, 2019 at 2:39 AM
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With the time difference to Australia, this may be difficult, but maybe you could ask a friend or family member to video call her so she could still see the ceremony? If that’s not possible due to your ceremony site, maybe you could video call her once you’ve got your dress on? Or maybe just have someone video the ceremony so you can send it to her later?
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Summer · on May 17, 2019 at 5:22 AM
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My step-son to be is not allowed to come to the wedding due to his mother. We are doing a special song for him that his father used to sing to him as a baby and I sent him a groomsman gift in the mail. This may be something you can try to do for your sister-in-law as well?
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Tori · on May 17, 2019 at 6:10 AM
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I second the video chat idea, but if that's not possible with the time difference, maybe have someone film the ceremony to send to her and you could add a clip at the end of you and your FH saying how much you love and are proud of her.
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Lexi · on May 17, 2019 at 8:18 AM
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What if you made a video throughout day of your wedding that showcase you and fh all day. So it would be like a video chat but she would just see it later. So your talk to her on it and then your fh gets a turn and throghout the night you keep gettiong clips of you two talking. In a way kind of like a youtube video where someone is talking into the camera! And then also get clips of the ceremony and speeches. Maybe at some point in the speaches say a little piece about how she couldnt be there today but you are proud of her and love/miss her and have everyone wave to who ever is filming? I feel like this whould give her the feeling like she was there due to how the video includes her. Maybe you could designate one person the film it throughout the day
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Cynthia · on May 17, 2019 at 9:13 AM
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Right. She has seen so many amazing places! But been almost two years since she has been home. So she has been having some hard times with being away.
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Cynthia · on May 17, 2019 at 9:14 AM
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I love that idea! She had talked about wanting to talk to my FH and I for the wedding day. But I love the idea of sending her a video of the wedding.
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Cynthia · on May 17, 2019 at 9:16 AM
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Yes! I love that idea.
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Cynthia · on May 17, 2019 at 9:18 AM
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I definitely want to make a video for her happen. I think she would love that! My FH said we should do a big cardboard cut of her.. and he said that when we were on the phone with her. We all laughed about that!
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Cynthia · on May 17, 2019 at 9:20 AM
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Yes i was planning on sending her a bridesmaid gift and it is all the same things I am going to give to my other bridesmaids.
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WifeyPoo · on May 17, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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I love the idea of a cardboard cutout. A few years ago when a friend couldn't make a girls trip due to illness, we made a cutout of her face and included her in all of our group pictures. It cracked her up and she realized how much we missed her company.
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Alejandra · on May 17, 2019 at 1:53 PM
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I had a few video calls during my wedding, lol it was actually pretty fun to see the faces of those that could not make it for work related reasons. They did it during the party time because everyone was in a big circle dancing and they got to be in the middle. My video and photo guys caught that too.
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Heather · on May 18, 2019 at 8:49 AM
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Even if she can't be a bridesmaid, maybe send her a bridesmaids gift in the mail? Or if you really can't have someone video chat her due to the time difference maybe just have someone record the ceremony part and send it to her? I know for us we are using an app called the Guest where you can invite guests to an event and it live streams the photos and videos so maybe she can check it throughout the day and just see all the pictures? Let us know what you decide!
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