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Hear me out... Large bridal parties are overrated

Lo, on October 14, 2021 at 5:16 PM Posted in Planning 2 15
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Just as the title says... Hear me out. This is my OPINION so don't come for me. But I wanted to provide a different perspective to the norm. I feel the bridal party decision is so stressful for many and comes with a lot of drama. Large bridal parties are overrated and more trouble then they are worth.

I may be biased but I only had 1 girl standing by my side and I wouldn't have it any other way

  1. There is no hierarchy of friends. Everyone is important to me and I want everyone to celebrate not just those in a matching dress
  2. My friends are not props for pictures. Friends should not have matching hair and dresses so photos "look good". Not everyone looks good in the same color or style of dress. Let your friends be confident.
  3. It's expensive having a lot of girls. You have to pay for bouquets for all of the girls and I personally believe you should pay for hair and makeup if you have bridesmaids because you want them to look a certain way. I saved so much money by only having 1 girl.
  4. It's less drama! You don't have to worry when girls buy their dresses or get them altered, etc
  5. You don't have to wake up as early for hair and make up!

I still had my girl friends chill with me and eat breakfast the morning of, but the morning was free for them to do what they wanted! I think not being in a bridal party allowed the to enjoy themselves more and they wore outfits and colors they liked. They had so much fun picking out their gowns for my black tie event.


Once again, this is my opinion! And just wanted to provide a different perspective as I see a fair amount of posts regarding bridal party drama.


Your wedding will be wonderful no matter.


15 Comments

Latest activity by Hannah, on October 17, 2021 at 9:44 AM
  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    I have yet to be convinced there is any practical reason for having a wedding party altogether. Smiley laugh

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  • Shannon
    Dedicated July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    No wedding parties here. Don’t have a desire or need.
    It’s part of the traditional ways of weddings which are outdated in my opinion.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    I have 7 Bridesmaids 1 Jr Bridesmaid and 3 Flower girls,

    there are days when I think it's too much to have this big of the bridal party but all these girls are dear to me everyone gets to pick their dress and hairstyle and shoes all I cared about is the Color of dress

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  • Rosie
    Rockstar February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    You have many good points - the traditions behind bridesmaids date back to ancient Greek and Roman times and so if they don't suit you, there's no reason to follow them.

    I think one or two people is nice, but I've seen pictures of 10 a side and kind of quail in the face of the madness in the house where they're getting ready, assuming they all stay together.

    It sounds stressful to me - I have two bridesmaids (sister and sister in law) and will have both mothers and two other friends get ready with me, and I'm already a little apprehensive it will be chaos. I can only imagine what it would be like to add another 6 women to that.

    But, some people thrive on big groups like that and could never imagine anything else, and if they can afford all those people and would enjoy having that many, then they should do what suits them.

    That's really the best thing about modern weddings - there's very little which is a legal requirement, so you can totally pick and choose what fits you and your partner.

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  • L
    Beginner October 2021
    Lo ·
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    I love that you're letting them pick their dresses and shoes!
    I hope you have a wonderful wedding 💕
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  • L
    Beginner October 2021
    Lo ·
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    Very true! As modern brides we can pick what we want! We all have different tastes and preferences! 💕
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We skipped a wedding party. No extra stress, cost or drama for anyone! My mom & sister got ready with me.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Honestly your points are so valid.

    i had 5 in mine and i love them all dearly but at the same time god did they stress me out! and yeah i spent quite a bit on gifts overall as well so that would have saved me money.

    but i wouldn't have had it any other way either because i couldn't imagine anyone else but them up there. but i think your points are super valid. it can definitely save you a lot more stress with a smaller party

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  • Cece
    VIP November 2022
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    I completely agree! I tend to be a very laid-back person, and didn’t want the stress of having to corral lots of bridesmaids. I am having one maid of honor and one man of honor (which btw, I’ve come to realize having a male bridal party member is soooooo much easier and cheaper- no hair, makeup or bouquet to pay for). By having only 1 female standing with me, I am able to pay for her hair and make up, and both of their wardrobes. I will also be getting them both more extravagant thank you gifts because I can now spend $200 on each of them, instead of dividing that $400 between 4-8 people. And the best part of all… I don’t have to wake up early for hair and make up! We will be able to stay out late with our friends the evening before, and I can sleep in til noon on my wedding day!
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  • Cece
    VIP November 2022
    Cece Online ·
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    I will also add that I am saving a lot of money on the rehearsal dinner also! Because not only are you paying for your wedding party members, but also all of their significant others as well. Because our wedding party is so small, we can now have an extravagant 5 course meal with open bar at the RD!
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  • E
    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    I had two bridesmaids (no MOH).

    One of those bridesmaids had 10 bridesmaids for her wedding (I was not one of them. Six of them were her sisters.) My mom asked if I was hurt that I wasn't in that wedding party - that was a very quick no. I was very glad I was not part of that zoo.

    I think it just really depends on the person. I am very much an introvert, so I don't have a dozen close friends to ask, and I didn't when I got married, either. I generally have two very close, intimate friends at a time. But some girls have 5-6 friends like that.

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    We had 6 on each side and absolutely no problems or drama 🤗
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  • Melanie
    Dedicated November 2022
    Melanie ·
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    I love to see how brides do things differently!! You have so many valid points and I’m sure it would be so much more stress free and a big money saver! I come from a large family (1 of 7 kids) so I’m totally used to large gatherings and a little bit of chaos. All my members of my bridal party are such huge components of who I am and how far I’ve come. Not to mention my life savers, best friends, and advocates for my love life. I couldn’t imagine not having each of them not standing up there with me. So I have 2 MOHs, 5 bridesmaids, and two flower girls. But our bridal parties are uneven and I’m also totally cool with that. He has 2 men and 2 women that are his party. I guess you could say I thrive in the face of chaos lol.
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    Dedicated April 2023
    Peyton ·
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    I am 100% in agreement with original poster. Small intimate weddings are my favorite. On my wedding day, I only want to be surrounded by people I know and love. Fortunately, every one is different and there are plenty of wedding types to satisfy a variety of tastes and preferences

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  • Hannah
    Dedicated October 2021
    Hannah ·
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    Did not have one and do not regret it!
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