I am 25 female. SO is a 36 male.
We both have children. I have a 5 year old. He has a 9 year old. My sons father and I have a great relationship and can coparent very well.
My SO has an awful relationship with his sons mom. My SO and her never dated and were never married. It was a 1 night stand type of situation. She didn't know who the father was until the baby was born. I have met her but never talked or had any drama, but She makes life very hard for us both.
My SO is well off and has a good/supportive family. He hasn't had any serious girlfriends since he was 25. He has never really been in love before me.
Whenever I discuss babies and marriages he jokes around and avoids the subject. He says he loves me but is terrified by the responsibility of getting married... we have a beautiful relationship and have met each others kids after dating a whole year. We both say we want to get married so we can show our kids stability and what real love looks like... he is always wishy washy about getting married...
Quote:Him: " I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you ive just been scared of the responsibility it comes with"
Im thinking this means he doesn't like that I'm a single mom and doesn't want to take on another kid? He is very good with my son and my son loves him... he keeps saying he loves me and that he is sorry he can't make me happy... I feel unrequited love from him all the time... I can't help it.
Another quote:Him: "so you can honestly say you want to spend the rest of your life with me?"
Me: "yes"
Him: "I just don't feel that way and never have, but I love you".
In my opinion, Thats like saying I love you, but I dont ever want marriage with you
We have been together for 2 years and 3 months. Should I give it more time or just move on? I don't want to waste my 20s on a 36 year old man who doesn't know what he wants... but I love him and he loves me I know he does... he's a very good man... I'm scared ill never find someone as wonderful or compatible...
He says he is feeling pressure from his family and mine for over a year now. I dont want to give him pressure but I do want him to know I want to spendthe rest of my life with him..
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