Hey all.
Just thought to leave this here.
We have been together almost six years. We were supposed to have gotten married last year but due to covid we've postponed. Recently he's been in a different headspace and has decided to tell me that he doesn't know if he can be a good husband to me. He's an artist working on many projects (whether that means coming out with a new book, making a movie, etc)
He thinks he suddenly cannot have both and needs to choose between career or love. He expressed how he doesn't want to hate me when we're married. at some point he chooses to say we can just commit to each other without all the legal paperwork, but that feels confusing. If we were to live together it's still the same deal. He agreed with me on this since he didn't think that one through.
We've agreed to give each other space, mostly so that he can take time to actually process and think about what he really wants but I currently don't know what *I* am personally taking the space for. it feels like I am only wasting my time. We're each others best friend and we do love each other, but now it just sounds like he still has a lot of growing up to do and I am only setting myself up for failure. I am heartbroken.