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Just Said Yes May 2018

Having step kids part of the wedding

Tori, on July 22, 2017 at 7:10 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

I'm getting married in may and I have 2 daughters from previous relationship and he has one! I'm looking for a cool way too bring 2 families to one and having the kids being part of that! The 2 older girls(11 & 8) will both be jr bridesmaids and the little girl (5) will be a flower girl. Any info will help thanks!

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Latest activity by Jeannette, on November 20, 2018 at 5:01 PM
  • Amanda
    Expert September 2017
    Amanda ·
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    It sounds like they are part of the wedding. If you want to do more you could do a family unity ceremony. I've heard of anything from candles, sand, glass and a ton of other ideas.

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Also, do a search for 'family unity medallions'

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  • Melody
    Devoted March 2018
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    My 15 yr old is my MOH and my FW's son is in the wedding ad well and we are doing a family unity ceremony. We ordered the kids custom bracelets.

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    Expert July 2018
    2ndtime1stwedding ·
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    I have 2, FH has 2. We each have a child of each gender. So we are making all 4 kids be the wedding party.

    We aren't doing any weird blending ceremonies. No jewerly being exchanged between us and them. No poems being read. My Daughter will be 16... it's sorta weird if a man "promised" her stuff or acted like he was marrying her too. I have seen those ones where a groom "marries" both the mom and daughter. That's weird. No sand ceremonies no unity candle. We have all been living together for nearly 2 years so we could make sure we all jive as a family unit. The boys(12-13 by then) have been saying step parents for a long time. We will be married-just the adults. Kids get to witness it and then we will legally be steps. Then we all go home and life continues on.

    If you all do not live together yet I would be more worried about blending. There are some horrible horror stories and jacked up step families that didn't test the waters before jumping in.

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  • Bride2Be2018
    VIP January 2018
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    When my Mom and Stepdad got married, the 5 of us( 3 from him 2 from her) we all wore matching stuff and were junior bridesmaids and groomsmen. We were all in the 8-11 range. Just being included was enough. I think anything extra goes over a kids head. Just make them feel special/included and they won't need special little things like medallions etc. Just my experience. ETA: grammar

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  • TheHamWhites
    Super March 2018
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    A wedding I recently went to where it was a blended family, they had the whole family say vows together. It was really sweet. The groom made vows today her children that he would always love their mother and take care of her and them and love them the same he loved his children. The bride told his children she will always love their father and them as well and will always be there to cheer them on at their sports (he had sons who did sports) I just thought it was really neat!!!

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  • Adrienne
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    A family unity ceremony. I have 2 kids from my previous marriage, he also has 2 kids from previous marriage, and then we have a set of twins together. Every child gets to pick a color and we're painting a canvas together.

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  • LadyWatson
    Super October 2017
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    My FH and I each have (3) were blending together. His are 18(B)14(B)13(G)mine are 12(B)10(B)3(G) they are the wedding party. The boys will be junior Groommen the girls junior bridesmaids and my daughter flower girl. Since we're having a brunch ceremony our best friend will probably not walk and just be our guest and take pictures with us afterwards. My pastor will pronounce us a family and then Mr&Mrs Watson

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  • Mary C
    Super November 2018
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    I have three boys and a girl. He has a girl. Looking to do a key chain for the boys and necklace for the girls. They would say, "marriage made us family, but life made us feiends." As they are older children. Would do this as a family unit before the ceremony. We aren't having a bridal party so no rehearsal dinner, but plan to have a family gathering with all the kids prior.

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  • Cecilia
    Devoted November 2017
    Cecilia ·
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    I saw online sand jars personalized with names and each have a different color , if u do a sand ceremony you maybe can use that .

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  • Mrs. Jjb
    Devoted November 2018
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    We also have 3 kids combined and plan to incorporate the kids in the ceremony. His 2 boys will walk arm and arm flanking my daughter as a show of unity.

    We will also have some kind of unity ceremony but I haven't decided all the details yet. There are lots of great ideas online if you search "blended family wedding"

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  • Amy
    Super October 2017
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    I'm saying "vows" to my stepchildren and providing them with a gift.

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  • Amanda
    Master October 2018
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    We are doing a unity puzzle


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  • MoreMoore
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    Our kids are BM and GM. We aren't doing any sort of unity ceremony with the kids. We all love each other and there's no question about our roles. We blended very well when we combined households. The one thing we are doing as part of the ceremony is that in our vows (we are writing) we will each promise to be the best bonus mom/dad to each other's kids that we can be.

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