Having my wedding one week after my cousin's wedding....

I think because it’s after it’s not rude but having it so close to your cousins will inconvenience your guests. Did you try thinking about a Friday or a Sunday? I’d try the same venue on a Sunday and I’d also ask your cousin how they feel about it.

It is your wedding and you should do what is best for you. I would maybe talk to the cousin and his fiance because technically you can do what you want but some people get all up in arms about other weddings being close to theirs. I would only talk just to see how they feel. Are you being rude? No. Your date is your date. Would you do a Friday night or Sunday?

Is your cousin taking a honeymoon after their wedding? If so, chances are they will still be on their honeymoon when you get married, and I doubt they will care what is going on back home during their honeymoon LOL

I wouldn't be worried about your cousins opinion at all. You get a wedding day not an entire month blocked off. I would be more concerned with the guests that would naturally come to both of your events. I don't think it's logical to ask your relatives in Ohio to make two trips so close or take an entire week off for the two weddings. If you're okay with them potentially not being there, I say go for it.

Unless it was the same day, no ones wedding date would interfere with my own wedding plans. If you want that venue on a Saturday and that is the only one open, then you need to take it.

FH's cousin set her wedding date for the weekend after ours, and we were not upset in the slightest. Our weddings are very far apart and not everyone will be able to attend both, but that's fine. If you found an open date at the venue you want, go for it!

I think that’s fine!

I don’t think it’s necessarily an issue from a “considerate of cousin” perspective (though I’ve seen plenty of posts on here of people freaking out about relatives or friends getting married close to them, so it does clearly bother some people)


MY concern would be if your relatives would be able to attend 2 weddings on consecutive weekends . Would you be okay with it if a lot of the overlapping guestlist wasn’t able to be part of your day? I think that needs to be the leading question.

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I agree! Your day is your day, their day is theirs.

I don't think it's rude to your cousin, because they don't get a monopoly on an entire month just because they're getting married on one day. I would say just be prepared if some guests are not able to attend after just having traveled the weekend before. my cousin got married 13 days BEFORE my wedding (we already had our date set before they even got engaged) and I freaked out a little bit at first just because of the logistics of having to travel out of state two weekends before my own wedding! but everything worked out, and all our family were able to come to both of our weddings. I think it's totally fine!

I think you're fine. It's after, not before, and Rochester is only about an hour's drive plus a few minutes from Buffalo. It'd be a MUCH different story if the weddings were around this time of year...don't want to get stuck overnight on the thruway because of a snowstorm!

You should do what’s best for you guys, but my personal opinion is that it’s rude to set a date so close to them, especially if you are close with that cousin. One of my good friends tried to set her date for 6 days after mine and both of ours are destination weddings and I politely asked her not to just for the issues with overlapping guests and them being destination weddings. And I did consider it rude for her to set that date when my date had been set for months now and she knew when it was