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Dedicated February 2021

Having a ceremony now- reception later. Do we still pay for people on ceremony day?

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Future Mrs. T, on July 7, 2020 at 4:17 PM

Hey all so long story short, we’re postponing our October reception to February but are still getting married in October. Of course we want to celebrate in some way so I was thinking of a restaurant with a nice location for pictures and it can also be our rainy day back up as well. Now our ceremony was going to be small regardless of the COVID situation.

1. Me 2. My FH. 3 &4 my parents 5&6 my sister(MOH) and her husband 7. My best friend(MOH) 8. His mother 9&10 His sisters 11. his best friend(BM)
Since we’re still having our reception for 65 people in February which me and FH are paying for the whole thing, would we still be expected to pay for the food at the restaurant for everyone on our ceremony day? Are their any options you may know that we haven’t thought about? Thanks!

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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on July 7, 2020 at 5:34 PM
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I personally would be definitely paying for everything. I personally would be a bit put off if I went to ceremony and then we were required to all go out to eat to pay for ourselves. It’s not so much about the money as it is that I just feel like it’s a little awkward for the wait staff to have to split everyone’s bills up. But again this is totally a personal opinion, and if you feel like the people that you’re inviting would be OK with that then go for it.
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Devoted February 2024
Martha · on July 7, 2020 at 5:39 PM
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I would pay for their meal.
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Devoted July 2020
Christina · on July 7, 2020 at 9:44 PM
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I’m paying for the food of my family on ceremony day because I think itis polite. I’m jig into if people are attending an event it is rude to now have food. BUT, I have seen ppl do little finger food, cake and small bite and I think that fine. I think you just can’t have ppl hungry
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Devoted July 2020
Christina · on July 7, 2020 at 9:44 PM
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*i just think if
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VIP June 2019
Hanna · on July 7, 2020 at 10:50 PM
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Yes, I would absolutely pay for their meals.
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Expert August 2020
Jodie · on July 8, 2020 at 11:04 AM
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I think it would be rude to expect people to pay for coming to your wedding (clothes, time, gifts, gas, lodging, etc) and not host a meal. It doesn't have to be an extravagant affair. A friend who got married during all of this had appetizers and sliders for their 15 person wedding they had at an outdoor eating establishment.
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