Haven't slept through the night

I'm sorry you're dealing with this! I definitely recommend talking to a therapist/doctor. I get how this could easily happen. It's funny how people I have little to no relationship with became interested in me after my engagement. Even family members! I think with any big life event/change, we are forced to look at our lives more closely. Losing sleep likely exacerbates your problem. You can try to remedy that immediately by using melatonin, changing your night time routine, sleepy time tea, etc. Also, if you don't exercise or do yoga, do it. Yoga has helped me so much!

1) If ANY element of wedding planning is causing you this much stress, CUT IT OUT!!!!! Don’t want to talk to your parents? Don’t! Don’t want to find a venue? Have it at home/courthouse and go to dinner to celebrate! Elope entirely! Having anxiety attacks every night is not only severely unhealthy, but completely unnecessary.

2) Does your fiancé know about this? How is he helping you through it?

I’m experiencing this, I’m also not a great sleeper to begin with & I am stressing out over so many things (usually what I want, what others want, to make the wedding a fantastic time for our guests). I’ve been feeling a bit better lately w/ increasing my cardio.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! Yes, I have a therapist, but I guess with all the excitement and things being so amazing, I've let my own self fall by the wayside. Im a big cardio and core person lol, but I will make a point to try yoga. I'm a teacher and now that I'm off, I'll be able to try different classes at the YMCA. Thank you for being empathetic, it helps to just have someone relate .

View Quoted Comment I hope you feel better soon! I just started a new regimen myself, let's keep our fingers crossed it works for the both of us!! :-)

View Quoted Comment You're right. The elements of the wedding planning that are stressing me out is more the fact that my FHs family has zero to interest in the planning and my aunt keeps calling to just bring up stuff that upsets me. It's going to have to be a simple, pressing the ignore button when she calls. The things she talks about, wedding or not wedding related, bring up a lot from our family's past that I've worked through. So it just brings me back to a sad place. Then when I tell her it makes me feel that way, I'm being called dramatic. I'm definitely just going to have to cut her out, I've had to do that with a few people as of late.

My FH knows to a certain extent. He encourages me to talk about it and focus on just us. He is super anxious himself lol so we're trying to just help one another the best we can.

It’s hard to do, but yes. If she keeps bringing up crap, just say “I’ve let you know I’m not comfortable talking about this. Please refrain speaking to be about the latest gossip.” If she doesn’t, reject her calls like you said. If you don’t truly value the relationship as a friendship no reason to beat around the bush. “Family” doesn’t get a free pass to treat you like a doormat.

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! Make yourself a priority with this time off!

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Yeah, you need to get real familiar with the "ignore" button when she calls!

View Quoted Comment Right? It's so sad. I mean, I think my family is used to egging me on and getting a rise out of me and now I don't react to them personally, and they continue to try. (not my parents, but extended family). I'm at the point where I'm not sharing wedding plans, just going to tell people where to be and at what time lol.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Fingers & toes are crossed for us (gotta cover all bases)