Haven’t been on in a while / feeling ehh😒

I’m sorry you’re feeling the blues, I know you are definitely not alone around here. We haven’t postponed and I’m still feeling super stressed about what’s going to happen between now and September, but we decided no matter if it’s just us two we are getting married this year. All 2030 brides have had to make the best choices they can in this mess, and I hope you find the joy in your engagement again soon. Your day will come, and it will be amazing!
Also, I totally get the jealousy bug, our friends who meet three years after we started dating got married last fall, which was one reason we decided on this fall, if only we’d known... Give yourself some grace, this is rough. Take care!

I definitely felt this way. I had a long engagement and people got engaged and married within that time. My brother in law and his wife started dating at the same time as us, but they’ve been married four years now and have a kid on the way whereas we are just getting started. It makes me feel bad about myself like am I not good enough, why didn’t he want to marry me sooner.

I know the feeling. My fiance and I postponed our July 31, 2020 wedding to July 2022, and even though I feel a lot of relief that we postponed, I haven't really had much interest or excitement in planning much for our new date just yet. 2020 has been rough - it's OK to feel disappointed about this year. I think as time gets closer, some of that excitement will come back, especially as you're finalizing details, doing dress fittings, pre-wedding parties, etc. I recommend planning something fun for your original date this year, and plan some activities closer to your new date to help you get some excitement back! I see your new wedding date is in November 2021 - maybe setup a second engagement photo session in the spring, or re-do cake/food tastings this winter, or plan a weekend away for next summer. Your wedding day will be great!

Totally. I’m very much in the same headspace as you. We just postponed until Oct 2021, and while it’s a relief that maybe we can now have a more normal wedding, it stung more than I expected how relieved all of our friends and family were that we postponed. I know I would feel the same if I were in their shoes, not having to make the health risks vs loyal friend decision, but it sucks hearing everyone say how happy they are that we postponed. Happy?!? Like what part of this is happy?!
I already had no motivation to plan, and now booking anything a year out just feels like a good way to lose a lot of money if we have to reschedule again or they go out of business before the wedding. Feeling very bleh about the whole thing.

I definitely have some wedding blues. We've had to postpone so many times that it feels like we're NEVER going to get married xD. I might not have to take out student loans for my 2nd year of school though, so we MIIIIGHT still be able to do it in 2021 like we had originally hoped. Fingers crossed.

We'll both get through this you still have a date to look forward to.

I am sorry you are having the wedding blues. I get it really. We have had to postpone things and have been engaged for what feels like forever. I know with Covid-19 happening that things are just not as exciting as they used to be and can be stressful. What really helps me is that I know the time will come that I get to marry my best friend and have our day in the sun! So don't lose hope and maybe doing small things like picking out the colors or doing other things may help get those blues to go away. Just think about it this way you and your SO will have a day for celebrating you two and it will get here fast!! You got this!!

You're definitely not alone in feeling this way. I'm pretty sure everyone who had planned to get married this year has some negative feelings about the decisions they've had to make. One thing that has helped us deal with the postponement was to decide to still get married on our original date. Would you consider doing that?
Also if you need something to help you look forward to your friends' weddings in the next year, you can use those weddings to pay more attention to details and really focus on what you like or dislike and use that information to make decisions about your own wedding.

I'm definitely struggling with the wedding blues, too. We sent out our save the dates in February and... then I pretty much stopped doing anything wedding-related until this month. All my motivation and excitement has been replaced by anxiety and stress.

We're still planning on getting married on our original date, but are looking at either a scaled back 30-40 person event, or immediate family only. Even with a vow renewal and more traditional reception in 2 years, I can't help but feel robbed.

We're never going to have a grand entrance or a true first dance. I want pictures hugging my grandmothers without masks.

It feels like no one outside of couples planning weddings understand these feelings. Every time I see someone post a throwback wedding picture I just get sad.

Of course the marriage and everyone's health is of the utmost importance to us - it's just hard not to be bummed when you watch your whole vision of future family memories unravel.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!!! I am not the jealous type so when I started feeling this way I was like ahhhh noooo this isn’t me !!!!

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry you feel this way, I totally get it and o guess we just have to breathe and let life take its course and be patient! Sending you hugs

View Quoted Comment Good idea! Yes that’s what I will probably do.. hopefully the excitement kicks back in for you as the date gets closer too!!

View Quoted Comment Yessssssss girl. Same. We are all in this together and have to keep eachother staying positive 💛

View Quoted Comment We will all get through this tough time ! Just hard to stay positive sometimes !! Good luck to you guys too and sending hugs!

View Quoted Comment Thanks girl !!!!

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