Have your and your Fh's parents met?

Our parents have not met yet. mostly due to scheduling conflicts bc the attempt has been made on both sides. It’s a goal before the wedding. My biggest concern comes from the fact that my parents are very liberal old hippie types while his parents are very conservative and religious who are against drinking. They will all be very friendly and cordial but they won’t ever be particularly close. Which is perfectly ok but somewhat of a bummer.

Our parents only met formally because we did a group announcement. They probably won't ever speak to each other again just because there isn't a real need to. We live with my parents and within an hour of my fiance's. So I wouldn't worry about it

My parents and my Husband’s parents met two days before my wedding over coffee. They hung out for maybe and hour and there was a huge language barrier with my mom who doesn’t speak Spanish and they only speak Spanish. My husband did not love playing translator.

I had some anxiety about it but I realized it would be fine since they’d probably never see each other again.

Right when we got engaged they wanted a sit down meeting to discuss the wedding.however prior to they already met

None of our family has met, he hasn’t my extended family/grandparents and I haven’t met his dad brother or sil. That’s just the way it is. I know everyone will be on their best behavior at the wedding.

My parents and FH's met briefly at our apartment about a year ago. But it was for only 15 mins. They all seemed to like one another. But I would like to get them together before the wedding, just seems hard for everyone to be in the same place at the same time. My FH and I along with my parents live in one state and his dad and girlfriend live in another plus travel a lot.

Our parents didn’t meet until our rehearsal! My family lives in NJ and his is in CA 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mine never have. And given that hers live in the UK, and mine are in the US (and 90 years old), I doubt it's ever happening.

My FH’s actual parents are both deceased, but he has family friends that are like adoptive parents to him. Our families have met for our kids birthday parties and other events many times over the years now. They are very different in terms of religious beliefs, political views, lifestyles, etc, but it has always been fine. They easily find things to talk about, usually the kids and now the wedding, and since those first slightly uncomfortable meetings they get along well. They don’t have a language barrier so I can see what you mean about that being tough, but I wouldn’t stress about it because I’m sure it will be fine. Best wishes!

Sadly no because both sets have passed away. I did meet his parents when I was 15 and we dated for the first time, and he met my dad. So far my family hasn't met his family, other than my sister-in-law meeting one of my future stepsons once.

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I get the transatlantic challenges. My parents aren't up there in age, yet, but they aren't the youngest either. This wedding will most likely be the only time they will ever meet.

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That will be the first time ours will meet, too.

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I so get not wanting to translate all the time...its exhausting. It feels like you aren't part of the conversation and you cant have an opinion because it will make the conversation so much more complicated. lol.

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Thank you!!

My dad has briefly met FH's mom, but that's it. I don't think my dad will like his dad (my dad doesn't like when very intelligent people make it clear that they're more intelligent than everyone else) and I'm worried that my dad will get offended/say something. FH's dad means well and I love him, but I know he'll rub my dad the wrong way.
And my mom is mentally ill. I'm really sensitive to how others perceive her and take offense when I feel like people are disrespecting her even a little bit. Like I can say whatever about her, but God forbid someone roll their eyes at my Mamas behavior because I will lose it.
FH's parents are great and I love the relationship I have with them. I just don't want to risk that relationship by having them spend any extended time together with my own parents and it going poorly.

FILs live about 2 miles away, as the crow flies (nearly an hour, thanks to the subway). My parents live across the country. (My mom lives about 60 miles away, but she's not coming, so...)

FILs and my dad and stepmom HAVE met, but only briefly, and they've never managed to actually have dinner together.

My parents will be here for a week before the wedding, so hopefully we can get a few chill moments in...

We'd been dating for over 8 years when we got engaged. Our parents/grandparents didn't meet until we had our engagement dinner 2 months after we got engaged. I think the older you are, the less likely it is that your parents will have met. Especially when they don't live in the same town.

I agree with this. It also means that if they don't particularly like each other it will never be a huge deal. The likelihood of family events spend together is slim to none.