Laura
Master October 2019

Have you chosen your officiant?

Laura, on October 29, 2019 at 7:54 PM

Posted in Wedding Ceremony 48

One of the first decisions my now-husband and I made was choosing our officiant. Have you picked one yet? We wanted the right person, who would fit in with our personalities and would make it memorable. We chose him off of Wedding Wire. Rev. Earl Bolam. One of the BEST things we did! He was a huge...

One of the first decisions my now-husband and I made was choosing our officiant. Have you picked one yet? We wanted the right person, who would fit in with our personalities and would make it memorable.

We chose him off of Wedding Wire. Rev. Earl Bolam. One of the BEST things we did! He was a huge hit not only with us but also with our guests. He's charming, funny, and he looks like Santa. He's a Vietnam Vet who dresses up like Santa each Christmas for children's and vet's hospital.

Who did you pick?


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  • Aja
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Hey Rebecca, you can look into a justice of the peace or a notary to perform your ceremony.

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  • 2d Bride
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    As far as I know, Florida is the only state that allows notaries.

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  • Aja
    Dedicated January 2020
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    Whoops... makes sense because I'm a Florida notary haha!

    Thanks for letting me know!

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  • Ivy ORP
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    Our legal officiant was someone I've known through friends for a few years. We had a hard time finding someone that would agree to marrying two women, and I really wanted someone who was ordained as a Christian minister to fit my wife's beliefs. Our officiant was perfect!

    Our handfasting "officiant" is a good friend that I've known for years as well and has the best kind of friendship with my wife. He set the right tone immediately with the words he wrote for us and carried that through with the words we wrote for the bulk of the ceremony. We were so lucky to have two incredible people help us celebrate the way we wanted.

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  • Kayla
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    Our officiant will be my grandpa. And it was a no brainier for us to ask him. Neither FH or I are religious in any way so we knew we didn't want to go that route. I also knew I wanted someone who knew us and our story, which made finding someone who does this regularly hard to do. My grandpa has always been the one in my family who check in on me and makes sure that I too am taken care of. Which is nice, because I've always struggled to fit in with my family. He really made me confident in my decision over the summer when he asked if we we're okay with him getting ordained online or if we would prefer he looked into become a justice of the peace.

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    I've had a couple of bosses in my life I would have loved to have had! I think that's great

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    I had one Uncle I wanted to ask, but my husband wanted a clergymember.

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    I'm ordained to perform weddings, and I largely did it in order to perform same sex weddings. So far I haven't had the honor, but i'm so willing!!!

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    I did that too, but most wanted to much money. It's a good idea though!

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    That's pretty convenient!!Smiley heart

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  • Ivy ORP
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    The Supreme court decision is actually the reason I became a licensed officiant. A friend asked me to perform their wedding as a one shot deal, then another couple I'm friends with wanted me to do their wedding too. I was getting asked by enough couples that I got my license and have been lucky to perform weddings for several couples in the LGBTQ community.

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
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    I got ordained in 2002 because two female friends wanted to get married. We were going to do a wedding blessing ceremony since it wasn't legal in MI yet, but they ended up moving to where it was and married there

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  • Ashley
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    We did. We picked my aunt who has been our biggest cheerleader.

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  • Mary
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I come from a very large Catholic family, so my uncle (who is a priest) does all of our weddings. He's pretty cool for a Catholic priest--he's got a phd, has traveled (and lived) all over the world, and is surprisingly lenient on a lot of things.

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  • Ivy ORP
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    I performed a ceremony for two men that lived in another country, one was a US citizen, the other was native of the country they lived in. They got married here so it would be easier for them both to come back and be recognized as a married couple while traveling.

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  • Alyssa
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    Our venue works with a few officiants, so we likely won't meet ours until our rehearsal day. She has a 100% 5 star rating on WW so I'm not worried though!

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  • Allaura
    Devoted April 2021
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    My fiance isn't religious and in my culture Uncles have a major role in leading you spiritually so it's a perfect mixture of us hahaha

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  • Katelyn
    Devoted October 2020
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    My step-dad is officiating for us! He's been in my life since I was 4 years old, and he got ordained a few years ago. It was a pretty simple decision, luckily! Smiley smile

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  • Jodie
    Expert August 2020
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    One of my friends from high school is ordained and she will be performing our ceremony. We are not religious people so we didn't want a churchy person to do it. We also wanted someone we feel comfortable with. She has done a few of our friends weddings. It will be nice having a friendly, familiar face up there during one of the most special days of our lives.

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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated December 2019
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    My cousin, who is like a brother to me, got ordained online and will be marrying us!

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