Have you calculated your full costs then decided to cut things out?

I don't think it's fair to blame your fiance's guest list, it's his day too so he should have a say on who is invited. My fiance invited probably 25 people total he served with, they are meaningful to him and they are close from a super important part of his life. Some can't make it, they don't live in our state or are deployed, but it's nice to invite them. I'd cut back on things like flowers & decor, cut videographer or transportation or professional hair and makeup or paid hotel block, skip favors/menus/programs, you could skip cocktail hour if you do a first look, etc. I'm sure you'll get some "no" RSVPs. We invited 230ish, and have 92 "yes", 45 "no", and are waiting on 97. If you invited a lot of full families, the parents will probably only come for some, and if you invited out of town guests or elderly guests, I'm sure some of them won't be able to come.

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We had arguments from the start about his side of the guest list because most of our collective friends are still his. He wasn't close with all of the military guys that's why it bothered me. He group chats and talks to a select few all the time and those are the ones he should've only invited. Almost each and everyone comes with a spouse/SO also. It bothers me because he chose that it was more important to make this big guest list knowing the cost per head instead of focusing on saving us money in the long run. But yeah many of them live out of state. I think your no's are a good amount for how many you invited. Flower and decor I am definitely wanting to cut back! We already don't have video, transportation, programs, menus. We can't change the time frame of the day at this point though

For sure cut back on flower and decor. See what you can DIY without causing too much stress. Florists charge a lot. I'm not sure what area you live in but if there is a local wholesale flower shop they may even do bouquets.

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Yeah I think all the signage I am making won't be too much money cuz my FMIL has a cricut and FH & I will go to home depot pick out the wood, get it cut to size, and stain it ourselves. There's some unnecessary floral arrangements I can definitely cut out for sure. While the idea is nice I should really just save the money. My florist is over budget still even though she tried to downsize items and I tried to cut it back. I think getting it within my budget I should just cut back again. Saving a couple hundred is better than nothing and I can allocate that towards a honeymoon instead which I still have to figure out if we can afford to book one

I ended up making my own centerpieces for a dollar each using sand and candles and Mason jar. But if you want flowers you can do fake ones, they sell cheap ones at Dollar stores or craft stores like Michael's.