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Just Said Yes July 2020

Have a big wedding or intimate ceremony?

Theresa, on October 28, 2019 at 12:58 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

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My fiancé and I have been engaged for about a year now and have set a wedding date of July 4, 2020. We are recently becoming overwhelmed with what the end cost may be. He initially wanted to just have an intimate ceremony with immediate family, and I wanted a bigger wedding. Not over the top, but with all of the usual traditions. He went along with my wishes, but I am now wondering if I’ve dove in over my head and having second thoughts on if it would be better to have just our family. I already have my dress and we’ve only made a couple deposits but haven’t put down more than a couple hundred. I’m having a hard time deciding if I would regret just finding a small location for the 15 family members to attend. Ultimately, I’m second guessing myself and wondering if I’m truly doing this for everyone that would be invited or if my focus really is us. Any insight on helping me find clarity would be greatly appreciated.

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Latest activity by Cindy, on October 28, 2019 at 11:01 PM

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Pirate & 60s Bride · on October 28, 2019 at 1:18 AM
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Welcome Theresa! How many guests is your idea for a big wedding?

I had a destination wedding with 15 guests and it was amazing because just immediate family and close fun friends. We splurged on the venue, food & wine, did a pirate reception in a wine cave. I also had a local reception for 50 guests a few months later—that’s where we had dancing & cake. Both fun but different.

What is it that you want from a bigger wedding? Dancing? A party vibe? A ballroom reception?
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Jade · on October 28, 2019 at 1:18 AM
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FH & I wish we could do small + intimate. But, we have so much family that wants to be there... so, we’re having 175 guests! I feel like it’s okay to go larger, but only if all people truly want to attend & be there for you + FH. Otherwise, it is not completely necessary. Hope this helps! 🤗
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Da Mom · on October 28, 2019 at 10:33 AM
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You can have all the usual traditions with a small intimate wedding. If the planning is overwhelming you, then maybe that’s the way to go. Go big on details like a fabulous dress, real flowers, great meal, awesome photographer, etc. but keep the guest list small.
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Melle · on October 28, 2019 at 11:12 AM
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You can always have a big celebration later if anything, after you've saved up more
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Cindy · on October 28, 2019 at 11:01 PM
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We had the same dilemma! We looked at NINE venues and just felt kind of worn down and I told my boss (who eloped like 35 years ago) we were considering eloping and she said, "if you think any part of you will regret eloping, don't do it." Honestly, that locked it in for me, I knew I would regret spending 30-35k on one day (the opposite of the point she was trying to drive home, lol). We compromised with a microwedding weekend at a super nice Airbnb. I think, just listen to your heart!! At the end of the day, you get to be married
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